They say when we die we want to see our loved ones realy its its best way to go ye it is so traumatic .but its not been long youl be in shock ive been there a few times myself it does go eventualy what worse thing can you see .i would get your name down for counciling as soon as poss they can answere some of your questions as we are left with so many must have been such a comfort for your dad surounded by his loved ones he died surounded by love ime so sorry for you and your familys loss maybe mention it to your mum allthoe i have to say she will be feeling torcherd .paul

Hi there 

Thank you for your response; I have gained quite a bit of comfort from that. I am 100% looking to get some counselling for myself and my brother as we are both struggling with the fact that we were not prepared for the things we encountered. My Mum actually passed out and fell to the floor causing her lip to burst and her nose to almost break as she was in so much shock. They should have prepared us. 

Thanks again for your post 

Hi there 

Thank you for your response; I have gained quite a bit of comfort from that. I am 100% looking to get some counselling for myself and my brother as we are both struggling with the fact that we were not prepared for the things we encountered. My Mum actually passed out and fell to the floor causing her lip to burst and her nose to almost break as she was in so much shock. They should have prepared us. 

Thanks again for your post 

O.dear your poor mum bless her i dont think anyone can prepair us for loosing someone we love i think we all act diffrently .in my case i was numb for a while then bang it hit me. But i can tell you this the visions of your poor dad will dim our brains protect us from this sort of thing or we would all go mad . You will find as the moths go by your memory of it all will go fuzzy its iike our brain locks these memorys in a box accasionaly they slip out just give it  time if they do pop up just put a vision of something nice of your dad its like training your thoughts .your mum will need lots of support now in doing that you will help yourself and your brother to just stick together eventualy when you think of your dad it will be good memorys i dont think we ever die the stuff our bodys are made of may die but the thought the love etc are diffrent there energy and that never goes we will not know till we go your dad probably was looking at something we cant can when he opend his eyes i think he will be around for a while watching over you all till your all ok .ime a dad and grandad and i would fight tooth and nail to do that so if your in bed chat to him i do with my liz now and again he will hear you might think thats not true or thats rubbish but as the years go by and you get wiser you will change your views there wonerfull things go on in this world we will never understand or are ment to .best wishs paul

Thank you so much for this Paul. I would love to believe in everything you've said, and I think I do. I definitely talk to him, and I hear his voice in my head when I have decisions to make. 

I'm 24 and he died on Father's day so it's always going to be hard for the next god knows how long but I have a strong, close network of friends and family who have been great so far 

x

Hi ill ile just say this i wouldnt say you forget you never do but the sun will shine again how long depends on yourself . Your mums a diffrent story that will take a very long time and i speak from experiance ime 66 and have had some horrendous health problems this last year .ime very lodgical thinker so i dont just disbeleive or beleive but beleive you me ive seen things that have totaly changed my views on life after death its not the god thing .ime not religious in any way and what happens i dont know but theres things go on i could never explain we arnt here by chance thats for sure our bodys are a miracle just on there own .ask any scientist or google it the energy we are made of neither is made or is destroyed its its  here since the beginning of time and will be there till the end of time well its that that controls all our thoughts so you beleive it .theres a post on here from sarhapine8 if you can find it its about sighns after loss theres hundreds of replies about sighns people have had dreams are a common one we cant all be imaginging it it may give you some insight and comfort.so my best wishes to you your brother or your mum i hope her bruises where not to bad .paul