Hi there, 

I know years have gone by from this post but nothing has resonated with me more than this AT ALL. I feel like I wrote it, it's that accurate. My most wonderful Dad passed just over a week ago and honestly I just don't want to carry on without him. I miss him an indescribable amount and love him even more. I feel like my world has ended and it will forever be dull. I am so lost and empty without him. I just don't know what I'm going to do or how to navigate through life without him. Im beyond heartbroken. 
 

Please tell me that this gets easier cos right now, I just want to end it all as my family just don't understand me like he did. X

Hi there, 

I know years have gone by from this post but nothing has resonated with me more than this AT ALL. I feel like I wrote it, it's that accurate. My most wonderful Dad passed just over a week ago and honestly I just don't want to carry on without him. I miss him an indescribable amount and love him even more. I feel like my world has ended and it will forever be dull. I am so lost and empty without him. I just don't know what I'm going to do or how to navigate through life without him. Im beyond heartbroken. 
 

Please tell me that this gets easier cos right now, I just want to end it all as my family just don't understand me like he did. X

So sorry for your loss. It's one of the hardest things you will go through.  Yes, it does get better. It will be impossible to believe this right now because your body is filled to the core with sorrow, and you can feel it overwhelm you. I'm almost 3 years on and my life is back to normal, but I think about Dad every day. The actual sorrow pain turns from being automatic (what you're feeling now and can't control) to a controlled state. What I mean by this is you will eventually get in full control of your emotions where you can command being sad for a day by summoning thoughts, to actually having days when you don't even think about it. Right now, it's almost impossible to believe, your pain is raw and feels like it will be with you forever and ever! Trust me, your body sorts all that out for you.  I want you to think of your Dad, go out for a walk and literally talk to him and let his answers be heard in your mind, because that's the way they communicate back to you. You are supposed to feel like your world's ended, that's exactly how i felt! Life was a blur, nothing meant anything any more, I was walking alone and watching other people carry on as normal when my Dad had just died! My friend, hang in there, let this process happen to you, your Dad would totally understand. It's totally normal.  You'll be fine my friend, just take it easy, and take each day as it comes, some will be good, some will be absolutely terrible. Its the process we all go through. My blessings and hugs to you. 

I just had to say thank you for the advice you have given.

We have just been told my Mum has weeks/months to live and I’m absolutely devastated. Up until Friday we knew nothing.
we live and do everything together and have the best times and I can’t imagine what life will be like without her. I don’t have my own family through choice/it’s just not happened or sibblings and lost my dad when I was 20, so I will be left in our house all on my own. I do have family nearby and friends but it just won’t be the same. I don’t know what to do with myself. I hope I will be able to cope and your words have gone a little way to help.

My friend is in a similar position to yourself. She lives at home, & her brother who also lived at home passed away a few years ago. Her dad passed two weeks after mine, and when her mother goes she is on her own.   Take care. And again I am really sorry.

Thank you for your reply!! It is devastating, but I know I need to be strong for my mum and live a life she would want me to!! It’s just hard to see that when you are just so sad all the time!! It helps a little to know I am not the only one.