I just cannot move on and am basically existing.

Part of me feels he is going to come to me as he always tried to solve my problems. This is the biggest and most heartbreaking that I will ever go through. So please Dad, I need you so bad and my life has come to a standstill xx

yes i miss my dad two i find it so hard  i miss him more than anything in the whole world

I'm really sorry that you're finding it so hard. It's so difficult to bear. Hope you find a way to manage

I lost my dad a month ago. We just had his funeral. Reading your post I felt I needed to respond. I feel exactly like this. I have no will you carry on with life. He was my life. My everything. We was like twins, ran a business together and went on holiday together. I've come on here tonight because I feel worse after his funeral. I don't want to live with this pain. I hope time helps a little. 
how are you doing now ? Cheers tom 

Hi Tom,

First and foremost, I'm extremely sorry to hear what you've had to go through and what you're going through now. Losing one's "life" (as you describe your dad and as I would describe mine) is utterly horrendous.

I wish I could tell you that I am doing better now, but I am not. I lost my heart and soul and nothing and nobody in the world can make up for that. It sounds as if you have similar feelings. Perhaps it will help a tiny bit to know that there is someone else out there who suffers.

I don't want to sound too pessimistic. You'll find other people in this forum for whom time has indeed been helpful. Many people do learn to live again. I haven't. But perhaps I will.

But I just want to say again that I feel for you. I wish you had your dad back.

I have read through your thread and I am sorry you are still heavily grieving. It is very understandable if you had the close bond that you shared that this is the case.

My mum who passed away last month was very close to her father, a 'daddy's girl' as it were and when she was about to leave us, her father came for her to take her to the next realm of her journey. I remember when she lost my granddad and my grandma - she wasn't living in her country at the time and was in fact, thousands of miles away from them but that wasn't the last time she saw her father again because she saw him before she passed away from this earth.

Is this a figment of imagination to prepare us for death or do we actually go on a journey and I believe it is the latter, I think there is plenty of the universe we still know nothing about despite all our scientific advances and the belief of afterlife and life after death is the ONE thing that trascends ALL cultures and predates organised religion.

Your dad had to grieve and carry on living when his parents passed away just like my mum had to. I am sure your dad is nearer to you than you think and would want you to live your life to the best of your ability just like he did when he was with you and he was bringing you up.

He will always be there within you, as long as you are alive he is with you - just go and have a look in any mirror and you will see your dad. Like I can see my mum, as long as I am alive she cannot die in that sense because I am a male version of my mum and I can see her clearly when I look in a mirror.

Anyway, I hope some of the above helps, it's hard and it's unfair, I agree but the truth is, none of us have got long. I am 50 now and it won't be long before I'll be joining my mum - give it another 30 years and the likelihood that I am still here is pretty slim and if we think what 30 years ago from today was - 1992 - it's a nothing timeframe and it will soon come. Try and enjoy what you have left because it isn't as much as you think, take care.

Thank you for sharing. I'm pleased to hear that it is easier for you now (4 years later). But I totally understand that you're still grieving. I'm certain I will never stop.

Thank you for your thoughtful comments. I hope you are doing ok.

Hi howare you 

I understand exactly how u feel as im the same as you 

My dad was my best friend the light of my life the one whon i turned to for advice the chats are gone the company is gone part of me cant believe hes gone part of me died with him part of me still is struggling 

Its 7 months and its 7 months of me feeling like im in a nighmare a hell

Every day is hell

Every day ni look all around at an empty chair and every day i have flashbacks off all the places e went and his voice is always in my head

I agree with you a hundred per cent the pain of realising he wont be with you again is soul destroying.

I for one know my world just isnt the same it doesent look or feel the same.

Thank you for your post as whatever normal is through grief your post has helped me as now i see someone else is going through the same

Thank you