Hi Adam,

I just lost my Father two weeks ago. I feel EXACTLY the same as you do. I can tell you that 100%.

Its an awful feeling. My Dad was my saftey net, the one I could turn to for advise. We did everthing together, he was my business partner, my best friend, my adviser, and now he's gone. The plaster has been completely ripped off and now you feel so isolated and alone. 

You're totally crushed, helpless, and you don't see how you can go another day without him with you. I know, im the same and I feel like I need that advice too. What the hell do we do?

The thing is Adam, we HAVE to go on.  I too keep getting told "Your Dad would have wanted you to go on". All i keep thinking to that reply is "Yeah, but with him in my life, not out of it!"  

Its extremly tough but what other option do we have?  We can't cease to live too. He brought you into this life when you was a little baby, and he adored you. He wouldn't want to see child go downhill, its not right. 

You need to feel like this and not change a thing. All you need to do is keep waking up each day and process these thoughts. THATS IT. You'll feel terrible, you'll feel helpless. You may be on the floor howling. This is totally normal. Just accept that you've been hit by a freight train and you don't get up from that any time soon.  You need to comfort yourself whilst in this pain. I think we'll get better, in fact I know we will. 

I am here if you want to chat more. Trust me, I am feeling exactly like you are. You are NOT alone. 

Peacewind.

What a lovely response it helped me after just losing my lovely dad and feeling so lost

What a lovely response it helped me after just losing my lovely dad and feeling so lost

I also have lost my Dad Christmas 2020. He was such a powerful person in my life, that there are many days where I simply can not believe I will never talk to him again. Sometimes it feels that life is too long, if I am every to meet him again. My Mum has also passed and my brother too. My Father was my complete guide in life and my best friend. He had a positive answer to all our problems and our loss of both my Mum and brother were massive. He always managed to encourage me focus on what was good in life. I have found this year increadiably hard, as the person that was alway their for me, with his advice and guidance is not longer here. I have two wonderful children and I need to keep focused because of them. But life, has indeed become harder. I know the advice that he gave me for my Mum and brother, would be something that he would want me to have for his loss.

When we have people that are so important to us that it hurts so deeply when we loose them, we must remember that to have that pain, is because that person was so very special to us. That some people are never lucky enought to find that love in ther life and for that reason we must be look to all the times that we did have and not the times that we don't now have. I am lucky to have had a beautiful Mum, amazing in everyway. A fantasic, tallented and completely loved brother and the most amazing Dad, whom I am forever grateful and proud to have had as my Dad. Love you Dad. x You were my shinning star. A true light in my life and all the things that you taught me will live on in my thoughts. You were a special person and I loved you so much. Night Dad, you can rest with Mum and your amazing Son. I will keep close, that to have had you as my Father was a true blessing.