Hi, so sorry to hear about your Mam, she fought a brave fight against this evil.  it took my husband 2 months ago at age only 44, we have two girls.  it's a cruel and heartless disease which shows no mercy. Your Mam knows how much you loved her,  I believe they are around us and not gone. .I have not touched my husband's stuff yet , too painful,  his clothes still hang in the wardrobe with mine,  his drawers are still full..I don't think there is any right or wrong with that...may be too soon for your Dad to part with her things too. I have plans to make some of his clothes into clothes for teddy bears for my girls  (9 and 13), and one for me and his mum, but haven't got further then that!  gives me an excuse to hang onto them for now!  my husband battled for a year, awful thing about that is watching him struggle thru treatment,  get his hopes up only to have them dashed at the next test results. ..watch a strong fit man waste away to skin and bone and have to see my children suffer too. On the other hand,  we had a year to get used to the fact that he was sick and the 'shock' factor was less. ..to be honest I don't know what is worse,  it's just a terrible disease that leaves so much misery in its wake. ..I still can't get my head around the fact that my husband is not here lying next to me now like he should be, and should have been for many years to come. All I can say is hang in there,  you are not alone in this suffering xx

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I also lost my partner 6 month ago I coped strongly in the beginning because we knew they could not cure the cancer but recently my sadness of missingnhim and wanting to be with him is unbearable its destroying me wanting him back

hi I lost my best friend two weeks ago she was like a mum and big sister to me in one.

had cancer two years ago and fought it and then they found growths in her groin this year totally devastated me again 

she was in hospital before lockdown and I was about to see her I couldn’t make a choice one day as what my plans were and then the next things it’s lockdown and I couldn’t go and see her . Spoke to her on the phone and she wanted to go home that’s all she wanted . She then was home and was told to go home and she had 3-6 months left which was another shock

then she lasted a few weeks from that if that so passed on the 22 nd May and I was about to see her the day before so again I missed saying bye 

just feel dreadful two weeks in the funeral we have had and I cried half way in but then snapped back to being my normal self after at the wake went home and just felt so numb at home after that night .All week feel guilty numb and angry I never got to see her in time and that I didn’t push myself to see her before lockdown 

She told me she missed me and loved me the week before she passed away and that she had slept for 7 hours and I was chatting about my choir and things going on and she was her usual self with me blunt to the point and making me laugh bless her 

She was in pain and hid that from me and said she was ok but she was not and I’d do anything to rewind the clock and have that time back I just feel sick sometimes like and my heart aches I can hear my heartbeat sometimes it’s sonloud and I hate going to bed and waking up and facing the day 

have lots of friends and family and I care for people but I really loved my best friend she was my London mum xx

hi I lost my best friend two weeks ago she was like a mum and big sister to me in one.

had cancer two years ago and fought it and then they found growths in her groin this year totally devastated me again 

she was in hospital before lockdown and I was about to see her I couldn’t make a choice one day as what my plans were and then the next things it’s lockdown and I couldn’t go and see her . Spoke to her on the phone and she wanted to go home that’s all she wanted . She then was home and was told to go home and she had 3-6 months left which was another shock

then she lasted a few weeks from that if that so passed on the 22 nd May and I was about to see her the day before so again I missed saying bye 

just feel dreadful two weeks in the funeral we have had and I cried half way in but then snapped back to being my normal self after at the wake went home and just felt so numb at home after that night .All week feel guilty numb and angry I never got to see her in time and that I didn’t push myself to see her before lockdown 

She told me she missed me and loved me the week before she passed away and that she had slept for 7 hours and I was chatting about my choir and things going on and she was her usual self with me blunt to the point and making me laugh bless her 

She was in pain and hid that from me and said she was ok but she was not and I’d do anything to rewind the clock and have that time back I just feel sick sometimes like and my heart aches I can hear my heartbeat sometimes it’s sonloud and I hate going to bed and waking up and facing the day 

have lots of friends and family and I care for people but I really loved my best friend she was my London mum xx