I'm really sorry to read about your wife's diagnosis and the impact this has had on you both. It sounds incredibly tough.

I hope her meeting with the oncologist went well the other day. I'm not sure if they have been in touch with you since then but would it be possible to get an Italian-English translator to help with communication? Just so you can find out what you need to know and prepare for when she's able to come home.

I really hope you hear back from others who have been in this difficult position soon but if you have any questions that our cancer nurses may be able to help with then do feel free to post a question in their area of the forum. I'll provide a link to it just here.

In the meantime be kind to yourself and if you can, just try to take things a day at a time.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

I saw the oncologists yesterday and the cancer has recurred in her lungs as well so she is definitely on short time, they are trying to arrange hospice care (where I could stay with her)

They have said they will do all in their power to get her home by the end of this week, I'm now prepared and waiting.

I've spent quite a bit of our time together "looking after her" (Heart problems, thyroid issues,cancer) and now I have this awful self centered feeling that if she's not there what life is there for me? My usefelness stripped away and the things we planned to do just empty activities for one. Now I'm bleating, I know this is likely the grieving process and fear and anger.

But again someone here has popped up (you!) to give me comfort and for that I am so very grateful.

Hi mccmcc,

I hope you're able to find out more soon about the arrangement of hospice care. It's good to hear you're ready and no doubt you will be a great help to her, as it sounds like you have been so far.

The thoughts and the emotions may well be a form of grieving or coming to terms with the situation. For now try to do what you can and keep looking after yourself too. There will be difficult times ahead I'm sure, but take things one moment at a time and remember there is always support available, including from us here on this forum.

Wishing you all the best,

Ben
Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi mccmcc,

I hope you're able to find out more soon about the arrangement of hospice care. It's good to hear you're ready and no doubt you will be a great help to her, as it sounds like you have been so far.

The thoughts and the emotions may well be a form of grieving or coming to terms with the situation. For now try to do what you can and keep looking after yourself too. There will be difficult times ahead I'm sure, but take things one moment at a time and remember there is always support available, including from us here on this forum.

Wishing you all the best,

Ben
Cancer Chat Moderator

Thank you Ben

This place although can cause me acute pain, gives oodles of comfort as well to know comparative strangers take the time to offer help and support.

Thank you