Loss of daughter at 18months to cancer

Hello.. 

I lost my daughter at 18months she battled cancer (aml leukaemia) from the age of 4months. 
 

I'm 28yrs old, She was my first child. 
I havnt gone on to have any since as to be honest I'm terrified to. 
 

however is there anyone out there in a similar situation? 
mom struggling with other children around, I get jealous & so upset is this normal? 
if you've experienced this how have/do you deal with it? 
it's becoming a bit of an issue, I guess I just miss her so much & struggle to accept she's gone & constantly asking why her? Why my daughter?  
I have such mixed emotions, so happy to see videos of friends/partners/family's children they make me smile but yet it upsets me so much still, I sometimes feel anger and frustration jealous I guess they have children still and just wish so much it was me sharing that video or experiencing that moment with them. 
 

  • Hi there ...

    I'm so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time... life is at its crulest when it touches our babies ... my granddaughter was diagnosed last month with acute myeloid leukaemia too ... though she's a bit older .. she's just turned 18, and on her second round of chemo... and had a bug so had to be in isolation for a while ... thank God it wasn't carona virus... 

    But it's heartbraking watching her go through all this ... I had breast cancer nearly 3 years ago, and I could cope with mine far easier then hers ... no child should get this ...

    It's must break your heart watching videos of others ... you need time and help for a long time ... l think part of us dies with our children .. but part of them lives in us ..  I think there is no other pain like this .. and l wish I could find words of comfort ... but you put that baby safely into your heart now, you take her with you .. she is half of you ... talk about her .. and know your going through so much right now .. 

    Be kind to yourself .. it's o.k to feel angry or sad .. or cuss cancer ... it's holding feelings in that does damage in the long run ... I used to work at a maternity unit some 30 years ago, so know well the heartache that comes with loosing a child ... please hold on in there ... I'm sending you a special vertual hug... Chrissie  : ((   

  • Hi god ime so sorry cant even imagine the agony you must be going through my daughter lost a child william 8 years ago so i do empathise its the worst . Can i just add theres t nationwide group called S.A.N.Ds its a support mums and dads that have lost children she still goes they go for meals etc etc and support one another and as time goes bye they pass on things to help new ones that are suffering as only they understand in my case i grieved twice once for jen and then for william  counciling helps to .you can get sands number off the web once again my profound sypmpathys .paul