Hi i can relate to a lot your saying about how you are and i can tell you liver cancer is not always a death sentence my elder brothers had it and he is still here and just turned 80 he had part of his liver removed . Your liver is the only organ that can repair itself its more if it spreads .my partner passed she had liver cancer and lung cancer but it was the lung cancer that took her actualy she had first course of chemo massive stroke 4 days later .contracted sepisis and gone in to days but it was the lungs mainly .  So dont give up hope just yet . The most importnt thing is excersise and drinking plenty of fluids and good diet sounds silly dosnt it just that but i cant stress how important it is and have a read up on symtoms of neutrapenic sepsis.the next thing is if you were thinking of marrige do it now as there has been quite a few caught out by this not just for the ownership of things but being in the control of your partners care as if anything does happen god forbid .unless its in your name you own nothing sorry ive brought this up as you must be in shock my partners daughter took

her grief out on me because she hardly came to hospital said she didnt like hospitals as her dad died in one thoe she new her mum and i were total soul mates and i looked after her .she  wouldnt let me go to spread the ashs and i had no say whatsoever as i wasnt classed as next of kin i told her to grow a backbone she was 44 we had a big but up  so keep your chin up and look after yourself you have to be strong for him what i did when it got to much ime a strong guy i used to pop out and ring the samartans that quick chat now and again stopped me folding as i was lizs rock how would she feel if i crumbled think pos ive crohns so ime aware of these autoimmune diseses ive just had part of my bowle removed and bladder repaire ive had sepsis twice i thought my number was up but ime still here so think pos i wish i had known about this site at the time i wouldnt have felt so alone so keep talking there will be otheres come along but there seems to be a bit of a shortage of the regulars at the moment thats why you have seen me answere quite a few latly .paul

Thanks for replying Paul.

unfortuantely in this case it seems we caught the cancer quite late because we didn't notice as we thought the symptoms were all part of his colitus. Sorry to hear you have chrons x

the cancer in the liver is already too advanced to operate which is why he will hopefully have chemo. Atm they have said he will have chemo but I know if it spreads further from the liver they will tell us chemo will not work. 
 

im so sorry to hear cancer has touched so many in your life. I imagine you can relate to the way I feel.

its difficult because I'm so young, and we had our whole lives planned togeather.

his parents will be his next of kin and I have a very good relationship with them. They have been visiting daily and are very great fun that I have not left the hospital at all and am staying overnights. (While we wait for his surgery).

after he has his colon removed he will have to eat a low residue diet (with bread ect) and I am concerned about finding a balance between things he can now digest and good nutrition. I'm hoping a nutritionist can help us with this.

i am looking for a therapy dog for both him and me. If I can find one that would give me something else to live for, as my whole life is built on my relationship with him and when he's gone I must start from scratch. Even down to where I live ect. The therapy dog would be a good start. 
 

thanks for sharing your story x

O dear so sorry but dont give up yet its a funny disease is cancer it can take you in days or you can live for years . You look after yourself make sure you eat properly everyone looks after our loved ones but know one thinks about the main carrer i didnt realise how it had pulled me down in fact it made me ill is it whent on for some years not just with cancer liz had  complex health problems .i do hope your partners preatment helps . They must have some hope or they wouldn't be doing such a major op . Keep talking thoe dont bottle it up we are here not just me there are many on here that that are going through what you are .p ps ps just read up about sepsis thoe its realy important to know what to look for as cancer patiants are very very prone to it .

Hello Hannah,

                       l can understand the distress you are having to face,having been in a similar position, its utterly beyond anything l have ever faced before including a previous life threatening traffic accident.In the beginning l stumbled through a bleak ,bereft , barren wasteland of a mind and future,and these words do not begin to do it justice. Words are just spoken sentiment, but do not give up on individuals and their bodies to achieve incredible things. l don't profess to have the answers as to why this is, and will never understand why some can and others cannot, neither do l wish to use flowery prosaic words of false encouragement.l just want to say that some individuals can make the seemingly impossible happen,and it seems like your boyfriend is a very special individual with a very large incentive in his life to make this happen.

             In my case cancer spread from bowel to liver and l had 60%  of it removed,and l was not in denial of my chances.Six years on l am living a very very good life

                                      l understand it is advanced spread that comes attached with a low odds,not no odds and your obvious clear and level headed appraisal and planning stands you in good stead in dealing for whatever your futures hold.My sincere hope is that whatever the outcome, the joy and pleasure you share together never ever leaves you,

                                                                                   David