Struggling with anger

last night i shouted at my friend. he did absolutely nothing wrong but i completely lost it. for personal reasons he no longer speaks to his dad and it made me so so mad. although i do understand why he walked away from his dad and i can't imagine how hard it must have been, i couldn't help be angry that he just walked away when i lost my dad and i didnt even have a choice. he's really hurt by what i said and i feel so bad. i've no idea how to let out this anger and frustration at the world without hurting those around me.

  • Hi s-adbh,

    Hopefully in time you and your friend can patch things up and hopefully he will also come to understand how you're feeling and how difficult things are.

    In terms of what you mention about your anger and frustration, there are outlets for this. Hopefully this forum will be a useful resource for you to write down your thoughts and also to speak to others who understand.

    You may also wish to explore talking to others in a capacity such as counselling. Sometimes talking to a professional who is neutral and not personally connected to you can be very helpful in helping to process and manage feelings - so it might be worth exploring. You may find the Marie Curie or Macmillan websites useful for resources.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi just explain to him you cant celp it at the moment but you can do something about it maybe he wasnt as lucky as you to have a good dad theres t lot that arnt maby instead of being angry look at it from another point of view you could be him would you have done the same if you were him dont be angry be understanding maybe some counciling may help being angry can help but aim it at the cancer or your friend will end up an ex friend then wheres it got you both and cancer even thoe it dosnt think its taken another two victims .paul