Hello there,

Itis over 12 months since my husband of 40 years died, I don't think easier is the word ,but the grief gets different , not as sharp, if that's the right word, but just as deep and a great feeling of pure sadness

Every ones journey is different, I experienced Anticipatory Grief,quite badly,for the 14 weeks he survived the diagnosis,which I suspect made my grief after he died different to others

I think one thing that will stay constant for the rest of my life is the way and and amount I miss him,in every single part of my life

Hope this helps some

Maddy

Hi Maddy,

Thank you for the reply and insight into your grief, I will take it on board and keep plodding on, I was having a bad day yesterday and needed to reach out, I’m glad I found a site to get some help.

thanks

Jeremy 

It's nice to think I could have perhaps been of some help.

Best Wishes on this terrible terrible journey we are all on

Thank you and good luck on your journey to.

Hi Jeremy 1234.

I lost my wife at the end of January from ovrian cancer I have never felt pain like it in my life she was in her mid 50s brave and strong to the end and my best friend I know I will miss her every day I feel I just go through the process of daily life and don't feel I have any reasons to carry on without her but she would not want to see me sad or depressed and this keeps me going till I see her again.

Yes it gets harder as the months go by but then it starts to ease off at first its shock and numbness then the pain sets in then one morning you wake and the thoughts are not all invading then then back again but it does get easier its nearly two years for me but it dosnt hurt like it did but did my best counciling talking getting out for walks i found being round my grandkids . My daughter said dad your going to have to get on with it i know there not supposed to say that but it pulled me up with a shock and started to come back slowly planning a bit of a future ahead .of caurse this is what i did and we are all diffrent . Times the healer but not on its own paul

Thank you, Martin and Paul for your advise, I know everyone has their own path but I’m going to take on board both of your advice and hopefully that will help me on this journey.  

Good luck to you, Jeremy 

I also lost my wife in January Marie was 39 cervical cancer Marie should still be here but the so called specialists only want to use chemo now a days instead of getting on with a proper job and removing the tumour (they stick to the cheaper options)

I feel your pain as I'm going through it aswell I feel like I'm being stabbed continuously we buried Marie on the 4th feb (world cancer day) 14th valentines day then it was her 40th birthday on the 16th Feb and now it's our favourite season spring it gets no easier only harder the only advise I have is let you emotions out don't bottle them up plus it's good to talk and if you need help get it 

I'm here as we have our sons and they need me and I need them

I do hope the pain gets easier with time but I don't expect that anytime soon I'm heartbroken

Brett

Hi Bret, my wife had lung cancer and they told her she didn’t have cancer then miss diagnosed her cancer by saying it was slow growing but when she did get in for tumour removal it had doubled in size and spread to her lymph nodes, so the damage was done, so unfortunately understand your pain.

good luck to you, Jeremy