Hi kate are you still suffering ??.may i ask the autoimune disease your mum had ?? ive crohns disease i thought i had escaped some of the bad stuff but it got me i had to have a six hour operation it was horrendous i had sepsis and a bad infection before so i understand what these disease can do isnt it odd that our immune system turns on us do you want to talk or just get it off your chest both help. I had counciling when i lost my partner its not a magic bullet but it all helps its a funny thing is greif if you dont get through properly or hang onto it keeps coming back is thats whats happeng to you?? I beleive it is treatable .paul