Hi sorry like you said its a amall consolation he didnt suffer long but not for you my partner it was two days .i can say all sorts but theres only one thing you want at the moment .so all i can say is ime so sorry yes its unfair but cancer isnt fair and it does get eisier but you just have to look after yourself and take comfort from your family if they ask please dont say ime ok because you will not be one day at a time .paul

I just wanted to say that I'm sorry this has happened to you. I can't imagine the pain or how I would cope. It's amazing you have the strength. There is nothing to take that pain away right now, it has to be felt but time is a healer and one day you will be able to remember him without your heart breaking. I wish you peace and send you hugs xx

Hi,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It must be such a shock to lose your husband so quickly. I understand you must be feeling devastated and wonder what is happening even gettting from one hour to another.

I am sure you will cope with the help and support of your friends and family. You will get through this somehow because you have to, despite how bad it is. My wife passed away 18 months ago and I know how you must be feeling. It's hard to put it in to words. 

Please remember to look after yourself.

Chris

Hi

Cancer cruelly takes away those we love and am sad for your loss too.  Lost my hubby in 2015 after watching him suffer for three years, aged 63.  He also died at home with me by his side.  I had the same similarity as yourself in that he travelled for work so I was, as you say, used to him being away from home. I still miss his presence and it took me a while to accept the new path I found myself on.  Had to give myself time to grieve (different for everyone of course) and accept his being taken away.  Have two lovely adult children and now four grandchildren (just two at the time of his passing) and we continue to support each other and talk of the good times when it feels right to do so.  I now find myself doing things alone which I never envisaged those years ago but at times still feel vulnerable and am not sure that will ever entirely change.  I hope I am 'doing him proud'.  I personally think time does heal for most but grief and acceptance is part of a long journey taken at your own pace. Look after yourself.  Jules54

Hi Jules

All I can say is that you put it better than me. 

Chris

That's so kind of you to say Chris though we all have ways of expressing ourselves and I find it easier to write it down! My hubby, on the other hand was the 'quiet type' so perhaps I found my voice on his behalf. Take care. Jules

I am so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away on the 15th January aged 37 from this cruel detestating disease. I miss him so so much, like your husband he often went away with work so the last 3 weeks have felt like he is on a business trip. Our children are still very young and I also feel cheated of our future plans and him of seeing our beautiful boys grow. Today is his funeral and I am not ready to say goodbye.

I don't have advice of how to get through this but wanted to know you aren't on your own.

Sending you lots of love, strength and huge huge hugs x

Dear Claire39

i am so so sorry that you too have been so cruelly cheated of your future and  the children of their dad. 
I will be thinking of you today and hope you can get through the funeral ok. Ours is on 11th. 
I went to see my husband at the chapel of rest and it seemed to help me accept he has actually gone. I've gone from crying all the time to only crying occasionally. I find my self still forgetting and thinking he'll be calling or that I must tell him about something but I suppose that will just take time. 
stay strong for your beautiful boys and make memory boxes for them. They will always know their dad through you and the family  Don't be scared to talk about him 

I wish I could take everyone's pain away on this chat line I really do. 
Big hugs to you today Claire and your boys xxx

julie xxx

Thank you Paul

Thank you