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I’ve been crying most days for the last 8 years

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After my mum passed away eight years ago (when I was 12 years old), most days I still cry out of grief, depression and all sorts of other negative emotions. Some days it gets quite bad and I get a lot of negative thoughts, and after all this time I thought it couldn't hurt to see what others thought about how I can evolve a healthy and happy mindset at these especially bad times for my mental heath.

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    Hi,

    That sounds so awful for you.

    The last paragraph of this page talks about complicated grief and advises anyone in your situation to contact CRUSE with a link to their contact details. www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../coping-with-grief

    Best wishes

    Dave

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    O bless ya .like dave said could be complicated grief but you could have become depressed your best bet is to go to drs he should refer you for counciling its to get all those dark thoughts going around and around its not to late for bereavement counciling .every town has a hospic if you ring the visiter center and ask to spk to the head counciler explain how you are and see what they can offer you just have to make one big effort to pick up that phone and ask for help they will have had this before theres lots of kind professionals out there waiting to help but you just have to ask .and coming on here is your first step so well done .is your dad still with you ?? Paul

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    Hi there ...

    So so sorry you had to go through loosing mum at that age ... it's one of the hardest ages to loose someone ... my great niece lost a parent at that age, and she still has thoughts now in her 30s .... 

    I listened to her at the time and through the years, so I can understand why your still thinking of it ... you were robbed of a parent when you needed them most ... and you wernt a child, yet not an adult ... those middle years are when our hormones are playing with our emotions ... 

    In listening to my niece over the years, it has let enough pressure off for her to learn to live with those feelings ... and understand them a little ... you need to find someone who you can go back in time with and let those feelings out , that you had then ... process them .. say to yourself, it's o.k to feel angry , sad , cry ... or even feel o.k at times ... 

    It's good to process feelings, but not 24/7 if you can allow yourself to feel and think about it , not everything, just one feeling at a time ... for a small part of the day ... then remember a good time, and relive it to bring you back to the "now" and put it away untill the next time ... and yes you've been given really good advice ... reach out ... talk to those who can help ... come on here, wer all listening to you .. 

    Lastly, be kind ... to you .... know how traumatic a thing you've been through ... imagine what you'd say to a lass who's 12 and lost her mum ... you'd put your arms around her ... well wer putting our arms around you now ...  sending you a vertual hug...  Chrissie  

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