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Hi all my dad was living in spain with mum and had the saddest news the my uncle lost his battle with cancer and came back end of november for the funeral.When the arrived back my dad was looking worse for wear himself.he looked a out 10 years older then when I saw him in Sept.he was having stomach pains himself that were already going on for 40 odd days in spain.thinking it was a bug caught whilst on a break to benidorm.but it didnt go away so we insisted he went and saw his gp.after seeing the Gp they gave him a letter inside his prescription bag saying suspected cancer which wasnt a good way to find out .so his appointment was a week away to find out his fate..that week lasted forever. Not knowing drove us all mad naturally thinking the worst.when we saw the doctor on the 18th dec he came straight out with the news I will never forget..he said you have pancreatic cancer that's spread to the liver and have  3 months-6months too live.uncurable.....we were all numb and I cant even imagine how dad felt....obviously xmas  day was 7 days away and keeping a brave face and strong for my 2 girls 2&6 was so tough for everyone.knowing it's his last.we got thru it tho and took plenty of photos and videos .which I'll cherish for ever..dad got seriously worse the next weeks ahead and nosed dived rapidly.he died on 13th jan..it took 3 weeks 4 days from diagnosis to death.so unfair so sad so gutted.he was a nice man and didt deserve any of this.just cant get my head around the speed..the funeral is next thursday and I feel I'm just coming to terms with the news he has C let alone had it , and gone and now done all the funeral plans and that's it.i feel so sad, I've lost my hero.its happened so fast but weirdly feels like such a long time ago cos we have all gone thru so much hurt.....and he was so brave the whole time....thankyou to countess mountbatten....they were amazing x

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    Hi so sorry about your yes this rotton disease is so unpredictable they make a guess at lenght of time you have yes its dammed unfair we see on the tv people recovering never the other side where many dont so we can never be prepared if thats possible .but dont go by the way the media portrays grief in real life grief is a very agonising personal thing so just go along with how you feel its over 18months since i lost my partner and it comes back sometimes like it was yesterday some feel they cant remamber things and its cloudy but it comes back time now to grieve so sorry again paul

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    Sorry to read about your Uncle and Dad. I lost my Mum to Pancreas Cancer also last June. Like your Dad she just thought she had a bug. After a trip to the doctors and then a A&E appointment after becoming even more unwell, we got the dreaded news that it was Pancreas Cancer that had also gone to the liver. My Mum got 4 weeks and 2 days from diagnosis to death. Like you i found it hard to believe she had Cancer let alone cope with losing her so soon. I am nearly 7 months on now and i've gone through so many emotions. Denial and keeping busy, so much so exhausting myself mentally and physically that i had to take time out and deal with everything. Anger towards everyone around me and angry at life. I thought 2 months ago i'd never get myself to a place i could be happy again with life and find the old me who was so upbeat and busy. I can say now i still have low days, however the good days are becoming more and more, from a lot of effort to push myself. I have two boys 4& 13, at my lowest they helped keep me level but you will have good and bad days. Allow the emotions that will come, don't be too hard on yourself and know there is always people who can sit and listen even when you need. Grief i've found so far comes in waves

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    I am so sorry for your loss 

    I have just lost my husband who was 59  to this dreadful disease. He too was diagnosed on 10th  January this year and was dead by 25th  January. He only had a few stomach cramps which they thought was IBS. It all seems so unreal doesn't it that your world can completely change in just 2 short weeks. 
    Time will help us live with our loss but it's something you don't get over. My beautiful family and grandchildren are helping me get through but I still think I'm in shock. 
    The funeral is in 9 days and I'm dreading having to face up to the fact he's really gone 

    Take some comfort that others understand what you're going through. 
    take care xx

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