Loss of daughter

My daughter died on Christmas eve after a horrible battle with neuroendocrine cancer, she was diagnosed in July after trying to get doctors to listen to her for 6 months

 She never really stood  a chance because it was very aggressive and had spread to multiple organs and bones, particularly her spine. I have spent the last 6 months by her bedside most days and now I  feel lost. I have to keep looking at her photos  (and read her fb posts) because I dont want to let go, she was just 37. What do I  do now?

  • Hello,

    My heart breaks for you, for the loss of your daughter. I hope you find the strength to go on eventually, it will take some time. I will include you both in my prayers. 

    Laura xx

  • Hi ime so sorry i cant imagine how you feel .just do what you feel you have to do ive lost a grandchild and my partner 18 months ago it was agony .it starts with shock and disbelief numbness .are you getting any support ? This rotton disease masquerades as all sorts of ilnesses thats the trouble just keep on doing what your doing as grief is such a personal thing .think ive been through every emotion dont let anyone tell you how to grieve as time goes by maybe look into some counciling it hurts talking at first but as you reach a repore with the counciler it gets like a lifeline as the world goes back to normal but we dont once again so sorry .paul

  • Thanks for replying, I feel so sorry for your recent loss of your grandchild and partner this must be incredibly difficult to bear. I will be having bereavement counselling starting in Feb so hopefully I will get some coping strategies to help me get through this. Take care of yourself  x

  • Thanks it does get easier you may not think that at the moment but it does .glad your having counciling please keep going it hurts at first but gets much better ime not so bad at moment . Keep your chin up one day at a time get your emotional strengh back youl be worn out .best wishs paul

  • Hello, you've suffered the absolute worst thing a parent can go through. It must be unbearable. It's a miracle that you're able to reach out to others. The fact you nursed your daughter for 6 months must be so difficult to suddenly just stop. How wonderful that you gave birth to her, loved her everyday and stayed with her until the end. Life will find a way to creep back into your grief whether you're ready for it or not. I'm a Christian and believe very strongly that God is taking care of her and you right now. I will pray for you and your family, that you begin to find peace in your life and a certainty that you will be together at his side when it's time. With love x