Hello

So sad to read your post. Everything will be so raw for you. I truly understand the pain you are experiencing as I lost my lovely husband to lung cancer in February of this year and every day is a struggle. Just try and take one step at a time. I try to take comfort from knowing that the 35 years I had with my husband were the best ever and I know you will feel the same about your 37 years together. Take care, sending you much love

Jan xx

So sorry you lost your husband thinking of you x

Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my legendary husband of 41 years, 10 July 2019; he had bowel cancer with liver mets and fought bravely for 18months.

I miss him immensely, all day, everyday.  I feel like he's not gone and will come home and that all of this is a bad dream.  Worst thing is, I've been back to the hospital today as my brother in law has been diagnosed with bladder cancer and I had to drive him there and re live some of the memories over again.

Dear HollyMolly,  I hope you can find some peace in your wonderful memories and happy moments that you shared together ( I love to look at photos on my phone )

hi molly

your not on your own and I understand completely.

my husband and I had been together since I was 16 and he was 18 for 34 years and 50 weeks. My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer in August which had also spread to his brain, 6 weeks is all that we had together after diagnosis. He collapsed was rushed into hospital and never regained consciousness and it was 20 days before he finally passed away. I kept a bedside vigil never leaving his side and had to watch the love of my life go before my eyes.

i am finding it very very hard, there has been so much happen it’s been a sunami of grief for me that I just about kept a float. His funeral was on the 7Novembe or anniversary was the 8 November, his birthday would have been the 24 November then Christmas then New Year then my 50th January and he wasn’t there.

however, I have had my family with me on the important days and although I cried and felt sad and lonely they still helped me get through those days. That is all that you can do, remind yourself that it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

a day at a time is the only way to go forward

Hi and welcome to this site you must be feeling so hopeless theres no words i can say othere than it dose get easier in time for me its been 18 months now somedays it seem like yesterday .but the black all invading thoughts are going its its  like a dull ache . Theres a post from sarapine8 about signs after loss theres many people answerd with there stories you may find it a comfort or at least reading them might just take your mind of things for a while when you feel ready . Dont let anyone advise you how to grieve people can say the most stupid things but mostly its to try and comfort you they just dont understand but we do .just hold on one day at a time .paul