I'm so sorry to hear that your husband passed away on Saturday. Undoubtedly you'll be dealing with lots of thoughts and emotions at the moment. It's natural to feel lost in it all.
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Hi so sorry happend to me .talking is about best way of coping we can never be prepared the pain is indescribable .would you like to tell us what happend ??? Paul
He was diagnosed last July told he had terminal stomach cancer and only had 3 months to live. He fought on never giving up he has chemo which finished last December . He seemed to be keeping it stable until about 2 months ago when he suddenly went downhill ending up in hospital fading away. He wanted to come home we managed to get him home on the fri then he died sat morning. There are no words to say how I feel just glad we got him home .
Hi so sad this rotton disease is so unpredictable but you did him proud and got him home if only for a short time all you can do now is put one step after the other like many have i wish i could say something to make you feel better but there is nothing .have you support from your family that helps how old was your partner ?? Do you have kids . You know if it gets to much on a night you can ring the samaritans i did when it became unbearable it séemed to just calme the ach down for a short time looking through otheres posts can help to know your not alone can help its all about healing yourself now griefs like an illness it goes round and round in your then the what ifs why didnt i do that try and ignore it its not real just keep talking how you feel otheres will come along and share there storys it does help in fact anything large or small helps.paul
Thanks he was only 61 and not ready to leave as we have grandchildren who are devastated the funeral is on Tuesday I don’t no how am going to get through that it makes everything worse as it’s just before Christmas the time for family not ready to do this
O.dear its not going to be easy 60 so young . You may find the funeral may not be so bad as you will be so busy just stick wit your loved ones dont be alone if you can i found being with grandkids its its you pick up nice energie .theres a post on here from sarapine 8 called signs from loved ones after loss if you can find it does cast dout that death is not final it may give you some comfort or at least take your mind off it for a while as i said even a walk out in the park in nature it all helps .
I’d like to think he’s still out there somewhere looking down on us. Thanks for replying it’s help a little.How are you coping without your wife does it ease in time
I beleive they are .yes it took a long time to come to terms with it but we do but we have to work at it i did everything i could to take the pain away i dont feel lonely now because i dont think death is final not in the religious sence .theres things that have happend after and ime a very lodgical thinker that stopped me being sinical about what others say .theres things in this world we will ever understand or are ment to .theres a lot of people replied to that post have a look when you can the moderaters may help you find it .p
Hi sorry to bother you again it’s just I no you’ve been here I just don’t seem to be able to sleep eat or get of the sofa nothing seems to matter anymore just feel so lost
Dont apologise i understand i was the same lived on chees on toast for weeks so long as your drinking plenty of fluids or your going to feel much worse just so long as you eat a bit even like i said if its iust toast i just watched videos nice ones took all memory stuff out of room so i had no pics i couldnt bear to look some are diffrent and have them all over but the bedroom everything went its not your getting rid of a loved one its only for a while now ive slowly brought them out again you will still be in shock do have family brothers sisters kids grandkids that can come to see you it helps we need to be alone to grieve but not all the time it does feel like your lifes ended but it does come back slowly and as i said i dont beleive we just die and thats talk to your husband out loud i did still do at times i think they hang around for a while to make sure we dont do anything . I could feel my liz just try it . But after a while you may just feel hungry and eat something but keep coming on and chatting asking questions we all deal with loss diffrently and you know the part of your brain that we cant control will protect you it will not let you neglect yourself so dont worry laying around and things is normal for some otheres clean up 5 times a day and cant stop . But dont apologize for being the way you are and if someone says pull yourself to gether then say go on how do you do that then its so dammed anoying the word move on still sends cringgess down my spine now just keep talking its the best .paul ps did you find that post i mentioned just come on if you want to i or one of the others will chat and try to help we all need a what plans have you for the week ??
