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So many people have told me that time is a healer but it's coming up to 6 months now since I lost my beloved mum but I feel the same as the day it happened, if not worse. My mum is in my thoughts 24/7. I have tried to repeat things/go places we did together but it's just too painful. I've tried putting slight differences in place which I thought was helping but now it's not. Mum lived on a small holding so I still have to go there everyday to look after the animals. To begin with I took comfort being there but now each time is harder and harder. I just don't know what to do. 

We also had a really bad experience at the hospice and every time I close my eyes I get flash backs

Just feel like I'm existing...

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    Hi Bobs 

    I could have written your post. Its almost 6 months since my mum died (14 june) and things are much harder for me too. I cry all the time, enjoy nothing in life, feel sad permanently and cant see me feeling any differently.

    I can't  believe she died and just like you, I'm existing. The time of year isnt helping either and I'm avoiding shops and festive happiness.

    I dont know how we can feel any better but I just wanted you to know you arent alone in the way you are feeling.

    Cheryl x

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    Hi bobs 6 months is a very short time your probably feeling about the worst its a long process is grief ime afraid time is a great healer its  what  you do with that time just sitting it out and waiting it will just be the same perhaps a spot of councililing or join a bereavement group may i ask why are you hanging onto the animals and smallholding is it because if you dispose of them your letting go of your mum your not realy your hanging onto pain maybe have a think about it discuss with your  partner or a friend but at this time 6 months is nothing of a time just take it one day at a time it does get eisier but not if you hang onto things best wishes paul

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