My mum had a fear of cancer and dying.  It was very severe.  When she collapsed with fluid on the lungs it was Monday 19th August this year.  On Friday 23rd August. They told us she had metastasised cancer. She was too ill to be tested further to find out where primary was. She had a week to a "few short weeks" left.  She was told initially it was a chest infection. We had been told for weeks by her dr. It was just a chest infection and her severe back pain was nerve damage.   I said to dad and the consultant in the meeting "don't tell her". But somewhere in the conversation I was overruled by dad and the dr. I can't remember the conversation very well. I think I was in shock.  But they said best she know. She was completely lucid. But very very weak and fatigued. They told her on the 24th August and as I knew she would be. Mum was terrified. I can't get the sheer look of horror and fear on her face out of my mind. She died two days later on the 26th August. She should never have been told.  I wish I had fought harder for her. I'm so angry with them for unnecessarily  putting her through that torture. For what??  She died two Days later. Probably the shock from it all. I'm not angry with dad. He was being led by the stupid dr. Who in front of mum said to dad "I need to see you urgently in my office". So that sent mums suspicions through the roof anyway. 
 

my poor mum. She died in so much fear