My mam died just over 3 weeks ago

Hi, my mam died suddenly just over 3 weeks ago, she hadn’t been well for few weeks but we thought it was from losing my grandad 6 month ago which was her dad, but then realised maybe something isn’t right, when we got Mam into hospital, they did tests and cake back my mam has cancer in the womb and spread to lungs and which wasn’t curable but maybe try to prolong , but when they did biopsy the results came back it was too aggressive and type it was they couldn’t touch, she died 4 days after that so in space 2 weeks all this happens. it’s heartbreaking as she only got all clear in January from throat cancer 5 years ago. I’m  really struggling with sleeping and getting up on a morning, I’m scared of my life without her, she was my best friend I spoke to her so much every day! How do you cope with losing your Mam? 

  • Hi Cheryl 

    I know what you mean, it’s just so hard to think nothing can be done about it all. 

    My mam had pains and niggles for quite a few weeks, but she had fallen over so we thought it was off her falling and we said doctors can’t do anything for cracked ribs. Now I just keep thinking if I just took a step back and really thought would I have seen that she wasn’t well instead of thinking it was off falling over, the doctors said my mams cancer had been there for long time,it was a sarcoma in the womb which then when it had spread to the lungs why she was getting pain, I did say sorry to her in hospital for not realising earlier. 

     I hope that our mams are looking down on us and are at peace. 

     

    Sam x

     

  • I'm hoping the passing of time has made it easier for you.  For me, there is anger, or anxiousness, that people are talking about hugging after Covid, when I have no one to hug. Remember the good times. Toast her on Mothers Day.  Your feelings are normal. Get through the anxiety and anger, get through the sadness, find the the everyday joy in life - flowers, dogs being naughty, trees sprouting buds... you will get thru xxxx