Hi jancs take no notice of people saying how to grievr we are all suffering one way or another on here but your grief is the most important forget that otheres have it worse .my friend said exactly the same thing to me say well you will get over it and meet someone else if he hadnt been my friend for 61 years i would have clobberd him but you see he hasnt been through this its amazing how so many are experts on grief yet never been through this .so you grieve the way you grieve not how they say you should .its so unfair we feel cheeted robbed of our future like a giant full stop has been put in they way .but can say this the pain ddoes dwindle in time.its time now to heal yourself . Take one day at a time and take all the help you can find i had couciling joined a bereavement group social group just help the lonelyness you didnt say how long its been we just have to talk and tell everyone whats happend because its it important so just coming and chatting there will be a few widowers come along and chat as us guys dont have that closness that ladys do so ime realy sorry i dont know your pain but i do empathise with you paul