Hi there, I'm so sorry for your loss!! I've just lost my mum on Saturday to cancer suddenly and I honestly don't know what I'm going to do I don't even feel I have the strength making it to 8 months so well done on you for that. I feel scared of that too at night is when I overthink things I'm still in shock right now and got so much to sort out so don't think I've had proper time to face it yet. I feel though just keeping busy is good. I was giving up on Christmas but I have a 3 year old so I have to do it for him and keep a brave face on to make it the best for him. I know they will always be watching us and just think of all good memories to make you laugh and smile. I'm sorry I'm probably not much help and only just joined this forum but I thought I'd message and try give you some kind of support. Don't hold on your pain just let it all out if you need to cry do it no matter where you are xXx

Awww hi Aimee 

Bless you and hugs in your time of need. I remember those early days like yesterday. I came to this forum when I was suspicious my dad had cancer, then it just went so fast, just a couple of weeks before he died. I feel for you. I cane back once or twice to thank people who were here for me. They truly know our pain. I haven't been back for a few months, but the last few days I've felt unbearable with pain. Can't show it to my children as it upsets them. So came back tonight. It really is a place you can speak how you feel and know that people understand without you having to sugar coat it. I'm so sorry to hear you have just gone through this awful thing too. Yes remember the good times xx I know my dad won't want me to hurt, but, I hurt night times are worst. I know what it's like to have to stay strong for family. Take each day as it comes. We are all here together holding virtual hands to help us through with love xxxxx Thankyou for being here tonight

I know how you feel, I lost my mum who was also one of my best friends. 

Awww Have you Kindke xxx 

I feel for you

i imagine you have ok days 

good days 

and then the just plain awful long suffering days. 
To help me I close my eyes and pretend I'm in my dads living room chatting with him like we used too, it makes me feel better. Maybe you could try that xxxx 

They wouldn't want us to suffer and hurt ( even though we still do ) xxx hugs 

Hi Julie. You are not alone. I lost my dad almost two and a half years ago. I was his primary caretaker even prior to his lung cancer diagnosis as he already suffered from dementia so he lived with me. After his cancer diagnosis, I quit my favorite job and moved out of my home of 30 years to travel about 1 thousand miles away so that dad could be close to his grandkids for whatever time was left. I spent 35 days in the hospital with him and made ALL of the decisions. Everyday was dreadful but looking back, it happened so fast. From diagnosis to death was only 17 weeks. I remember initially feeling a sense of relief when he passed, and I didn't cry right away. Friends, family and neighbors came over the next day to offer condolences but I still didn't cry. I was too busy being strong for everyone else. I think that I finally cried after about a month or so (alone). The first year was the darkest for me. I made up for all of the time that I did not cry. I cried so much that I couldn't believe I had any tears left. I had hurt so much that I felt chest pain as if my heart was literally breaking. I've had friends, relatives and even my brother pass away but this pain was unlike any other I had ever felt in my life. It just wouldn't subside no matter what. I honestly wanted to die. While I am coping better now, the sun will never shine the same again. My life will never be the same. Sometimes I feel like I'm not living but just existing. However, I find comfort in knowing that my dad is in heaven with God, and he's whole again and cancer-free like your dad. You have to keep living and making dad proud until we meet again. No matter how old we get, we'll always be daddy's little girl.

Hi Rebvelaz83

Thankyou for taking the time to write.You have pretty much described what I went through, apart from moving, I moved my dad in and we had just under 3 weeks. Everything you wrote is what I feel. I'm at the chest pain with sadness stage, feel like anything will tip me over the edge when I least expect it.  Yes you are right, when it's a sunny day, I think of my dad, when I'm in a beautiful place, I think if my dad, whatever it is ! I think of my dad and yes, the days will never be the same again, I feel a massive sense of loss. I do know he won't want me to hurt though so I guess that's why I'm trying so hard. Still don't want to upset him ️ 
      What you wrote was as if I wrote it myself. It helps to know that others are feeling it too as you fear you are about to lose control. 
        Thankyou so much  

Oh my word 

such a beautiful post, inspiring and reduced me to tears also, Thankyou so much, I love the journal idea, but not going to do that unless I have boxes of tissues and chocolates and I'm alone Thankyou for your beautiful words, you have helped me so much xxxxxx

            Julie xx

Hi, has it got 'easier' ? My dad passed a year ago and my heart is completely shattered. I cry every day whenever I'm alone and I feel so sad all the time. I'm completely broken and I can't cope with the pain of losing him.

Hi

i know you posted this a few months back but I lost my dad 25th June this year and he was my best friend. We had such a unique bond. We shared so much together and everything happened so quickly. He was only diagnosed with lung cancer that spread to his lower spine and other areas in May and then died in a hospice a month later. Before that I'd take him alone and help him in and out of the car to hospital appointments for scans to see what his bad back pain was and he collapsed on me many times and felt stupid and embarrassed that he couldn't walk anymore and that his 30 year old daughter was having to catch him and wheel him about. I'd have done anything for him. I told him lean on me, I'll catch you. 
I have a 18 month old son at home and if I didn't have him to carry on for I don't know what I'd do. I miss dad so much, he was a tower of strength to all, he was the most amazing man. He only got to see my son until he was 16 month old ans it's not enough, I wanted him to see him grow up! He adored my little boy, it made his day me bringing him to see him every day when he was off work poorly. 
I honestly am so heartbroken, I don't know what to do without him, how to get by. 
I've been so strong throughout this for my mum and brother and try to help them with their pain but when I'm alone or if something triggers me I'm a complete mess. Today when My Girl the film came on tv it set me off because my dad liked this film and we watched it together when I was younger. When songs he loved play on the radio I can't handle it. This pain is too much. I hope you're ok x