Hi PompeyFC,

I'm so sorry to read about your mums partner. I csnt really help other than to reassure you that there are plenty of us in similar situations and you are not alone.

5 months ago today my mum was happy, healthy and enjoying life. 5months ago tomorrow she went into hospital for a routine operation with one night stay. I dropped her at hospital and said I would be back to collect her the following lunchtime and bring her home. A few hours later the hospital rang to tell me that my mum had suffered a catastrophic brain hemorrhage 15 minutes after the operation and was unlikely to survive. She died on the 14th june. I have spent almost 5 months in shock wondering how my mum went from taking my daughter to mcdonalds and doing my bedding plants to being dead 48 hours later.

My mind spins all day long and I just cannot make sense of it at all. There will never be answers for us and we just have to manage as best as we can without them, taking things day by day.

Thinking of you and your mum x

Hi so so sorry its a realy sureal disease its not like the charitys portray cancer on the media sometimes the symptoms dont appear till this rotton diseas is eveywhere the  we are left reeling .my partner had first chemo on  the monday had a massive stroke friday morning contracted sepsis and died sunday morning it flattend me . We get aches and pains and we think they will go i had it myself waited a month went to gp they sent me for prostrate biopsie they said they ciuld do a biopsie or monitering it i said ive seen what monitering it does this blasted dieses goes round your blood strem so before you know its everywhere sad it wasnt cancer but to come back every 3 months so your mums not  alone if you havnt counciling might help your mum and yourself but ring hospice for it they are the experts paul