Hi sorry about your poor dad 6 months is not very long and i think 6 months is about the worst . You dont mention if your mums still around all you can do is just be together lots dread birthdays xmass try not to worry about it to much realy its just another day just cancel it if theres just you but try not to be alone . I lost my partner 14 months ago the first xmass i had my xmass dinner with a mate .this xmass ime resigned to the fact ill be alone but ime not dreading it as time goes bye it does get eisier and it may not be as bad as you think .whatever you diside to do try not to be alone . Paul

Hi felicity,

I feel exactly the same as you. My mum died suddenly 4 months ago and I am dreading Christmas and the lead up to it.

Mum loved the festive season and did all the decorations. I have hated Christmas since my dad died 21 years ago and relied on mum to get us all in the mood and the time of year happy for my 12 year old.

Yesterday my sister messaged me to say that she and her family have been invited out on boxing day but she wont go if I'm on my own. I said I csnt even think about xmas. 

I just want to fast forward to the 2nd jan but I cant as I have a child who wants fun and laughter.

God, I'm dreading it.

Cheryl x

Hi Felicity,

I do understand how you must be feeling. I lost my mum to Breast Cancer just over 6 months ago. I am only 33 years old myself and this will be my first Christmas without mum.

My mum loved Christmas too and would always put up the decorations and help cook the food. She sure had a lot of Christmas spirit, was fashionable and loved to dance.

I miss mum very much but is always there in my heart and is probably watching over me. Also, I am spending Christmas with my Dad and Brother. Anyway, stay strong always and take care of yourself. x