Dear Lizzy, I fully understand your anger and you'll find a few of us on this forum went undiagnosed for many months, fobbed off with painkillers or antibiotics, my husband had five x rays over five months, no one picked up on any of them until it was too late and he was stage 4 lung cancer.  So how do you cope with the neglect that means you lose a loved one?  You have to stop being angry as it gets you nowhere and it doesn't help, unless you use that anger to help others.  I started this blog and am helping many others to cope and used my knowledge to advise and connect.  You need to grieve first because losing our Mum's at any age is sad, mine died of dementia so I understand how you feel about Dad, it's too much to cope with on your own.  Try a bereavement counselling session and express your feelings to them.  Concentrate on you and let others cope in their way, if you feel the neglect was due to doctors, then write a letter asking for explanations, this may help to put it into perspective.  I have a lovely photo of my Mum on my mantelpiece and speak to her all the time, kissing it and telling her I miss her.  Write again if you need further help.  Hugs your way,  Carol x

Hi pet so sorry your struggeling my partner was missdiagnosed to so understand your anger .carols dead right counciling may realy help you can ask questions as ime sure you have many you can rant cry everything i rang local hospice spoke to head counciler and she arranged for me the following week think i was lucky there . I went for months it  was my lifeline you will have one near you theres cruz bereavement helpline and you know i used to ring Samaritans there there 24 hours . Its a long lonely road is grief ime afraid but doing these things can lighten the load  off your shoulders and coming on here.theres some threads on here about signs from our loved ones i think your mums mums still there her physical body may have worn out but the energy love and all those feelings cant just blink out we  are surrounded by energy  we cant see it but we know its there i think she will be stickiing around for a while to make sure your all ok so when your struggling talk to her tell her how your feeling you may find it comforting its over a year now and i still talk to my Lizzie at times when ime by myself one day at a time it dose get eisier as time goes on but its realy early for you they say 4 months is the worst then it starts to get slightly eisier you dont notice it but one day you will.paul