Sorry to hear about your loss. 

You don't have to have kids to be supported. There are plenty of organisations whose intent it is to bolster people at times such as this. This forum could be considered such a thing.

On a personal level, I would generally say to just get out there and live your life to the best of your ability. Easier said than done, I realise, but it is a fundamental truth. 

Do you have any close friends you can confide in? 

So sorry to hear about your loss. My dad died and even though I still have my mum and brothers and sisters I too feel alone as I’m single and have no kids.  And it’s hard going on when you feel like you have no one. Cliche as it sounds though you have to try and honour your life by making the most of what was denied to your mum. I said to my dad when he was diagnosed that If I could trade places with him I would and he told me that what he wants is for me to live my life. Your mum I bet would say the same to you. Also you can always chat on here and we will try support as best we can can . And I strongly recommend bereavement Counselling to help you through this time x 

hello Steph3

I am alone. I do have kids, but they are 37 & 42. They don't really need me nor can they comfort me because my relationship with their Dad was obsessional, mutually so. They can't bring him back and nothing will comfort me. The little un did help hugely when John was ill so I could keep my job and still ensure he was not alone, loved and cared for. We did it between us and three and a half years in with John at his end, I got diagnosed. So year four of cancer starting, I ain't dragging her into it. Son is autistic and lost his dad and toddler within weeks of each other. He can't deal with feelings anyway...but I have learned you can have a world full of caring folks, but no one can get you through your unique loss except you. I'm still like a petulant kid seven months on. No embrace will replace his, no others words of wisdom, no love so big....Do try counselling though. I had lots. It didn't do owt for me but for others it can work. I write a short note to John every day. I shout at his picture, but I also kiss it.  If you have any item of clothing of your mums, especially worn, put one in a plastic bag and seal and well as you can (surprisingly scent of them lasts years). The other you can hug and smell her on them. Even if washed you can still use your imagination to have her with you. Talk to her, write to her, she can in some ways be with you. Later on if there is a time you feel desperate for your mum & you can't get anything from teh clothes you have been using, open your precious bag for a quick sniff, but reseal it fairly soon for later. I have a nightie of mums and a pullover of Dads. They passed away in 1993 and 1998 and I still get comfort from these things. I can still actually smell them on their clothes. It may not help you but it might. Give it a try. xx Val

Hi Steph3. 

First of all, I'msorry about your Mum.  too am in your shoes. I lost my Father 20 years ago, my Mum 8 years ago and my dear husband 1 year ago. We had no children and I'm an only child. I had to rely heavily on friends and my church. I still do. When people offer you help, take it. Talk to your doctor, there are organisations out there that can offer help. It is definitely harder for those of us with no family because even if families aren't close, they will still usually come together for the death of a loved one. 

All the best, and take care

Love Heather. X

Hi steph ime ame so so sorry to loose your poor mum and then have to deal with it all yourself seems so unfair you dont say much about yourself .and only a week you will still be numb .have you had the funeral yet . You certainly come to the right place we can give you support . I lost my partner after a massive stroke 4 days after first chemo sepsis took her in two days . Sepsis nearly got me 4 weeks ago but in my lizs case it was a blessing as she would have died with the cancer at home paralysed it took her in less than two days ime telling you so you know we understand not for sympathy that trains left the station long ago . Do you have any friends ??s if not you have many friends out there you just havant met them yet i know its early but ive lost many family member  because liz and i were best chums to i didnt realy need any friends the first thing is to set up some counciling the local hospice is best look the number up ring and ask to spk to the head counciler they were realy pleasnt and they understood as there the experts at dealing with loss  theres probably a bereavment group in your earea were you meet people who have lost a loved one .but its a lonely road is grief as only you loved your mum  as much .you know i joined a local social group theres people like us out there you  have to get out and have a life i hated it to start but kept going same with counciling we go out for meals the odd dinner dance etc usualy people are very kind of course these things are what i did all these things help a bit just buta walk in the park you have just take one day at a time .if its bad on a night and you cant sleep the samartans can realy help theres a post you may find comforting its sarapine8 signs after loss have a look when your ready theres not much to do for your mum now its time for you to heal yourself as am sure your emotionally exhausted and stop becoming a recluse .ime sorry i cant comfort you much a vurtual hug from everyone coming your way .one day at a time and keep coming on talking on here with everyone best wishs paul