Hi my husband passed away 3 days after we got married

we married the 29th July and he passed away the 2nf of August we was only together 9months 3days I don’t lnow how to cope with things my emotions are all over the place can someone tell me if they can or know anyone who can help me with this I’m not sleeping properly not eating properly just don’t know what to do thankyou in advance 

Hi Nicki

Im so sorry to hear about your husband. My mums is a similar situation, she’s lost her husband to. She’s so lost and really doesn’t know what to do with herself, she’s has never known life without my dad. The advice I give to my mum is take it one day at a time, don’t look into the future. Maybe you could go see ur gp see if he can give anything to help. With no sleep and no food becomes no energy, no wonder your emotions are all over the place. Please message me if you need any support x

Hi mills1 

There is alot of bad press about sleeping tablets but I think thet are very useful in extreme circumstances.

After my mum died 3months ago I couldn't sleep at all which left me feeling dreadful and unable to carry out the basic tasks of keeping the home going. I took sleeping tablets for 10 days after seeing my gp on day 4 of no sleep.

The help they provide is very subtle, not like you see in a Hollywood movie. Taken 30 minutes before bed they just helped me fall asleep and get 4 to 5 decent hours.

This was enough to start functioning again. I stopped after 10 days and although I'm not a great sleeper anh more, I have maintained about 5 hours a day.

Hi Nicki,

How are you today.

I know exactly what you are going through, your picture is so much like my wedding to Lesley before she passed away in June 2018. I know you don't feel as if you can carry on at the moment. But somehow you will get through this horrible time. Please just take things hour by hour and stay strong.

Chris x

Hi so sorry you have this loss its terrible . You know your gp can help they can give you something to calme your nerves short term last thing at nights the pits but you can ring the samaritans there there there for everyone i used to ring them and the sound of a friendly human voice just made the lonelyness a bit less painfull i know you must feel robbed i did . If you ring your local hospice they can help with counciling the hour a week was like a lifeline i dont know what your eareas like but the counciling i had went on for months as long as i needed it it does hurt to start with but you know we need to tell people and talke about our loves but after so many months the world goes back to normal and people change the suject or ignore it thinking they are trying to get your mind off it but you need to talk and the counciling gives you that chance and you can ask questions rant blub without judgment . These are some of the things i did that helped not a madgic bullet but when you suffer a major loss like this anything helps have a think and see how you feel cant do any harm only good ..paul