Cancer Research UK main site

I’ve lost my soulmate

Looblyloo35
Offline

after 19 months on constant fighting my husband bravely lost his battle on Thursday the 26th September surround by his loved ones. Taken so young. The pain is unbearable and having to tell our four young children was just heartbreaking. They range from 11-2. I feel sos so lost. Trying to stay brave and in routine for the children but everywhere I look or go he is there. I just want him back by my side. Life is so so cruel. Just hold your love ones closer and never stop telling them how much they are loved.

  • Offline

    Oh my ...

    I'm so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time ...  cancer sucks ... and my heart goes out to you ...  all I can say, is like when my niece lost her partner and daddy to her two little ones.. 3 and 10 months .. that because you can't stop and let grief overwhelm you as it would even more so, without having to do those things that you have to do, for those children .. it's giving you a purpose to have to get up each morning ... but I remember we had to hold her above the waves for a long time .. his photos are still around so hes a part of every day ....but even now she still thinks of him and wonders ....   

    Those two children have now grown and gone through university... they are amazing adults .. and we talk about their dad so they know about him .. it was like a Tsunami... over all the family .. he was 27 ...  so I'd say .. reach out to everyone that will support you and the kids .. 

    I'm sure he looked over my niece through the years and his babies .. as I'm sure your hubby will be looking down on you ...   sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x 

  • Offline

    I am so sorry to hear about you losing your lovely husband. My husband also died young 31, and we had a 5 year old son at the time. I can't imagine how hard that must of been to have to tell 4 children. Totally heart broken for you. And yes I agree cancer really does suck !!! :-(((((. Our son is 24 now and is doing really well. His just graduated from university with a first in Archeology :-))). He had only been going to school 3 weeks when his dad passed and in a way for the first year of school he wasn't quite up there with his peers, but time is a great healer. I'm not saying that you or I will ever forget our dear hubbies, but we won't be thinking about what happened and all the sad stuff all the time like you do when it's  fresh. Good luck and I wish your family all the best Sending you a kiss each XXXXX

Speak to a nurse

Quick links

Follow us

Registered with Fundraising Regulator (logo)
Cancer Research UK is a registered charity in England and Wales (1089464), Scotland (SC041666), the Isle of Man (1103) and Jersey (247). A company limited by guarantee. Registered company in England and Wales (4325234) and the Isle of Man (5713F). Registered address: 2 Redman Place, London, E20 1JQ.