I am so sorry to read your post.  Nothing anyone can say will make it easier for you. The fact that your.Mum was loved so much by you is lovely and you will need to keep it in your mind when you feel lost.  I lost my mother ten years ago and it still hurts. She was misdiagnosed and died quickly. I wanted her to see what our lives had turned out like and be part of it. My children missed her as they grew up.  I just hope she can see us.  

I have been diagnosed with breast cancer and I am currently going through my second bout of chemotherapy.  It’s scary and unpredictable and cancer doesn’t care about the destruction it leaves behind.  It’s so raw for you right now. I can only say that it does get easier but it takes time.  Remember her with love and smiles rather than illness. Sometimes a certain perfume smell reminds me of my mum and I can almost hear her. I sometimes just take a coffee into the garden and think about her, life etc and just appreciate what I have and what I have had with the people that have now gone. Life is precious.  Take care of yourself and my thoughts are with you and your family. 

Your mum wouldn’t want you to feel like this. I’ve just lost my mum - she was 53 and she died 2 days before my 32nd birthday. She said the body was just a shell. We loved eachother so much and she brought me up alone until I moved out at 24. She’s at peace now. Our mums are no longer suffering, they wouldn’t want us to now suffer. Grieving is a process we all go through. I seem to be numb from it all and acting like nothing happened. She asked me to be strong so I am trying. We need to look after ourselves, for us and our mums xx

My mum died two weeks ago today. She was admitted to hospital on Monday 19th August. She had bad back pain and a cough for a few months diagnosed as chest infection and a pulled muscle.  She collapsed on the Monday by Friday we were told it was lung cancer which had spread everywhere and she died 3 days later. I still can’t comprehend it. My hearts hurts all the time. I feel sad and lost. I know what you are going through. 

Oh how extremely awful and my heart aches for you too ! I think I have been through the numb process in hosptial and now I think I just completely cannot believe it... gone? forever ?! forever is just such a long time to not see our lovely mums. I am glad you are trying to be strong and I will try to be strong with you and your right, our mums would want us to look after ourselves xx 

It's when you read others stories that you realise just how similar they all are... with regards to symptoms my mum was the same... a persistent cough since Christmas but as my mum had suffered from C before I think perhaps tests should of been done rather than "heres an inhaler, heres some antibiotics" which was the process the 5 times mum went to the drs. 

I am so very sad you are going through this.... and I cant help by offering any words of wisdom except if you ever want to talk about your lovely mum, or express words of anger and upset then I am always here to listen.

Take care of yourself xx

Mum also given inhaler and two lots of antibiotics.  I just can’t believe it. I was there when she took her final breath. I can’t get the images out of my head of those final few days.  She was so frightened.  Thank you for your words.  Just know you are not alone.  I was numb for two weeks now the pain is starting to hit.  A really sad time for us.  Take care.  Xxx

I was there for my mums final breath too. I keep having flashbacks from the Monday she asked if I wanted to tell her anything and I said no. I didn’t though as we spoke very openly and told eachother we loved eachother all day everyday, but I feel guilt because of that. I got there on the Tuesday and she wasn’t my mum, she was dying and it was horrible. Even down to feeling her breath turn cold and her hands. That’ll never leave me

I agree, the final days with mum will never leave me. She never went into a coma and stayed with us right until the last moment unable to talk or move properly but her eyes as always spoke a thousand words. 

I keep seeing butterflies everywhere, perhaps I didnt take much notice of them before and perhaps now its getting colder I wont see as many but.. perhaps its mum letting me know she is still with us and watching

it will be your mum 100%! My tv went off the other day, and the next day the volume went off. These little things are definitely signs from them :-) xxx