I have lost both my parents and also my son but this is the most painfull can't seem to pull out of it in tears most of the time

Hi yes your right anything that helps this rotton pain is worth it glad you come on you learn a great deal about loss grief the dredded guilt we all seem to get for no reason but it comes its because we have no one to blame other than cancer so our brains go wierd and we then blame ourselves its crazy but you eventualy work it out .paul

It’s still so raw don’t really no what to say can’t believe I find myself in this position i feel so guilty I couldn’t do more for my wife I no ime not on my own but I feel so helpless it’s no me I feel sorry for it’s my wife she was to young and we had so many plans 

I totally understand I been in same situation this feels so different 

Its a far diffrent feeling diffrent kind of grief its like our lives have ended but they havnt you just have to take one day at a time theres now manual for this and the ones there are havnt a clue Shakespeare's said everyone knows how to deal with grief till they have to go thriugh it themselves but you can make it eisier .paul

It is you blame yourself for no spotting it  you have flashbacks of her last minutes guilt and pain lost and not knowing what to do but take it minute by minute day by day don't make any hasty decisions try to eat a little and sleep a little it is and will be hell but we are all going through it

Remember if drs fail how are you expected to save them remember the great things you did not the few silly things  you forgot or didnt know even drs cant save there own at times

I no i have great family around me I’ve gone back to work just need a purpose  to do what I do all what I done do was. Done for my family but I still have our little dog who I bought for my wife 4 years ago 

Thanks I appreciate all your advice and I’ll takevitvall on board