Hi my wife died june16 myeloma multiple organ faliure I have found after this time I have flashbacks of her last minutes makes me tearfull and very sad does anyone else have these
Yes dont worry its not been long .you dont say if it was a painful death that must be horrendous and us guys are programed to protect our spouses love as well so ergo here comes the guilt i had to go to gp and they gave me somthing to get me over it for a few weeks dont try and tough it out or you will just get worse i still can bearly look at my partners photoes and its over a year now have you had any counciling that can help ime afraid its i lonely long road but you can make it eisier .theres theres bereavment groups there very informal and you can ask that question to others but i think we all get them as our life seems to end but we have to go on .youcould have ptsd you cant get anything more traumatic than this but ime not a dr and only they can diagnose that ime so so sorry about your wife its like a nightmare only your awake but it does get eisier .best wishs paul
My wife had a cup of coffee with me in the hospital cafe on the Friday Sunday she was in so much pain I asked for them to remove the tubes and just let her pass they told me it was terminal so she just had pain relief and I held her hand as she passed. paulus
O.dear so sorry i understand a bit its so early i was getting them all the time it goes round and round in your head then there the whys what if all mixed in .you can get help from gp as i said . And counciling you get some help from that not a magic bullet but in the months to come when your world around you goess back to normal you woant you will still be hurting and that bit of counciling may be you lifeline .ime not going to patronse you and say eat healthy etc becuse like me you woant but it all comes eisir . Its Its over a yer for me and i still feel as thoes my lifes ended but i still feel my liz around me a feeling sometime .s as i dont think all that enery love feelings just blips out of existance .you have a lonly road to trave but it does get eisier . I understand the shock your feeling to my liz had had chemo 4 days later talking about going away after second set then she stopped talking she had a massis stroke got her to hospital in less thant thenty minutes sunday morning 4 am she was gone sepsis took her but peasfull i was so releived she wasnt in agony .but i was probably in shock at the speed and unexpectegnes of it but like ive suggested i got councilig joined a bereivment group .and a localal social group went for lots of walks in nature and was around people in this group that understood as they had been throuh it thenselves .of course thats what i did but it helped yes i still get flashbacks and the dad memories but now i dont wake up and it hits me its iime you see and what you do with that time .paul
Yes my friend, I was with my dad (same condition) he didn't pass the way I wishes for him. His last moments are still very vivid, nearly a year on and daily i can see it happening. I don't know when or if we will ever stop seeing it, but I just keep reminding myself how I was there for him in his last moments and of what a world it would have been without them at all, which makes me happy to have had all the years I did with him. XX
Every single day for the last 3 months since my beautiful Mum passed away. The images just suddenly appear in my head and then a few seconds later I'm sobbing, then it stops. I find myself hitting the sofa or my leg when it happens, it's just such a horrible, distressing thought that just comes out of nowhere suddenly. It's like a nightmare I can't wake up from
