Hi,

So sorry to read about your dads sudden death at such a young age.

I cant really help you other than to say you arent alone.

My mum died suddenly on the 14th june aged 74 and I cannot cope with the loss at all.

I'm several weeks ahead of you and still struggle eating and cry every day.

Just eat when you fancy eating and make meals small and simple. I ate a bowl of cereal a couple of times a day the first week and even now I dont eat large meals.

Look after yourself and lean on your mum for support. I am 48 and cant believe I am now without parents.

I am told that things will get better with time.

Thinking of you x

Hi dont worry just eat when you feel like it just make sure you drink plenty or rhat will make you feel awfull . Your dads atill around somewhere all thoes thoughts love dosnt blink out of excistance we are made of energy we cant see it but we know its there it may have hurt your mum to put dad on but can understand how you feel and her just stick togethere like  glue .paul

So so sorry for your loss , so sudden 

i lost my mum on 25th May , 2 weeks after dher diagnosis , initially I was on autopilot but 3 months on I’m worse to be honest , in the last few days I’ve been tearful but like others I don’t like to tell anyone how awful I feel, some just think you will bounce back and time heals but I’m not sure.

I accept the bad days and I know they will pass , I allow them, and then try and seize the days when there is joy (family etc) . Joy post mum is different to joy with mum , she was amazing , my confidante, kind , loving -I have accepted no one can replace her and stopped looking for my sister,dad to fill that gap they can’t itvwas unique .

i treasure my memories of mum close to my heart, and try and stay strong when I can as that is what she would have wanted. 

So grateful that I can express myself in here , sending  love to all XX

Hi dont worry it all takes time only people that havnt had this loss think you bounce back it does get eisier with time but 3 months your at your worse you have blub when you feel like it i do its only nacheral you have had a terrible loss one of the worse if you can try a bit of counciling ring local hospice they do it if tou let it eealy helps its painful at first but you jnow as the world round you goes back to normal you will still be hurting and it may seem people dont care but its juat the way it is then you may find that talking to an expert who does understand your lifeline just one day at a time yes the sun will shine one day then next day be awfull but that means your on the up so try to eat and drink properly and keep talking .best wishs paul

Thank you for your very kind reply and advice . 

i am so sorry for your loss too .