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Coping with loss worried about not being able to cry at the funeral

worried about not being able to cry at the funeral

Offline cutebabe87 over 7 years ago

Hi

my mum died unexpectedly on sunday and her funeral is in 2 weeks and im worried about not being able to cry at the funeral

i still feel a bit shocked and i have cried a little bit at home but not as much as i thought i would

i feel upset inside and its like im crying inside but its not showing itself in tears much

i just wondered if anyone else has experienced the same thing

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Offline AngieT over 7 years ago

Please don't worry about this. Everyone deals with grief in their own way and, until it happens, you don't know how it will affect you.
No one will think any the less of you if you don't cry, they will just think you are being strong for your dad and that is probably what will be required. Your dad will need you to help him get through this & you may find, whilst being there for him, that it suddenly hits you and you do cry. There are no right and wrong ways to deal with the loss of your mum, just let yourself ride with the waves that will wash over you. xx
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Offline AngieT over 7 years ago

Please don't worry about this. Everyone deals with grief in their own way and, until it happens, you don't know how it will affect you.
No one will think any the less of you if you don't cry, they will just think you are being strong for your dad and that is probably what will be required. Your dad will need you to help him get through this & you may find, whilst being there for him, that it suddenly hits you and you do cry. There are no right and wrong ways to deal with the loss of your mum, just let yourself ride with the waves that will wash over you. xx
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