Yes drs are not good i was suggesting calling the hospic and speaking to head counciler they have answeres you will find later and everyone does that people get back to normal and your still greaving if your comfortable but its there for you in the future if you find your feeling your the only one thats still in pain .thats what happens any thanks for your comment about my partner ime not to bad i i was just saying so you knew ive been where you are now .paul

Exactly, it's an awful, excruciating pain but literally millions of others have been through it already and we're next in line on this journey, so we just have to take care of ourselves and get through it, one day at a time.

I'm always on here in the small hours x

Hi ime so sorry you must be in shock are you getting support at all its not easy with support but dealing with on your own is so much worse if you read my post about counciling its all to early fore you and i i know you need to talk you certainly have come to the right place we all feel we need to tell everyone as our parants are so important to us so so sorry about your mum paul

Thank you Paul, I’ll keep in mind for when I feel more up to it. Appreciate you reaching out and us all chatting as I’ve lost a huge part of that in my day. Chatting to someone that gets what I’m saying. X

We most definitely are. It’s still so fresh for me so I feel for you and hear what you are saying. Think I’ve been in denial since the news and weeks after but I hope you have support around you and thank you, same to you, I rarely sleep soundly at the moment lol X

Thank you I'm definitely in denial too and terrified anticipating the moment when it hits me.. hopefully we'll both get a decent night's sleep soon x

I just wanted to say I hear you all! I lost my mum 8 weeks ago. We only had four weeks from diagnosis of lung cancer metastatic to the liver. Looking back she had lost weigh since Xmas and a little yellow tint. I wish I had done more even though realistically it wouldn’t have changed the outcome. My feelings change weekly. I am only 44 and I still feel robbed. I’ve been off work and going back next week. I wish so many of us didn’t have to go through this, I’m now overly worried about my dad and myself where I used to be calm and collected.   It’s great to have this forum xx

Yes understand  you keep doing it i still tell people now  its almost a compulsion at times sometimes people just post whats whats  and never reply its the same it like they are thinking out loud it can be very comforting to know your not alone and your not so keeo reading and posting till you think your doing ok because you will i think your mum will still be around we are all made of energy all the love for our kids memorys dont juat go in a blink of an eye you cant see energie but we know its there paul

It's just so unfair isn't it... it doesn't matter what age we are, our Mums are supposed to be here, being the same amazing parent she always has been.

It must have been such a massive shock to find out so suddenly. I don't know if this will help you at all, but ever since we found out that my Mum's cancer had spread to her brain in May, I have been in agony knowing what was coming. What I'm trying to say is that even if somehow your Mum had been diagnosed earlier than she was, it would have just prolonged the pain you feel now, if that makes sense.

Maybe you could speak to someone about the anxiety about your Dad? It makes perfect sense to be worried but it doesn't have to be this way. xx