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Finally hit me - loss of dad 6 months ago

Lullubelle
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Hey guys..I've been on here before but not for a while...I have spent the last 6 months being in compete denial that my wonderful dad is no longer here...I've spent all my energy not thinking about him. Not admiting he has gone.ive pushed myself at work.ive done out of character things which I don't even regret right now..I have a partner who has no emotion or support so I'm recenting him...I'm scared to feel the pain but I'm tired..I want to be able to think about my dad and not cry.im tired of being strong I'm tired of being there for everyone else I'm tired of feeling numb...

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    Hi there ..

    Then do what your hearts telling you .. it's not brave holding it all in .. it's like having a cupboard in your head where you keep them .. and one day you go to put yet another emotion in there, but there's no room, and every emotion you've put in there comes tumbling out and it's overwhelming...

    That's why humans can cry ... to let out those feelings .. it's like looking at a tunnel, instead of going through it , try to climb the mountain up and around ... but that tunnel is full of emotion .. you can either go there, and feel all those feelings .. it's only by admitting what you've been through .. and dealing with it, can you start to come to terms with it ..

    You won't loose your dad .. he's right there in your heart ... take him with you on your journey... talk about him .. think of him .. it's when we block those feelings we truly loose them ... I lost my amazing mum 30 years ago in November... we all still talk about her .. we all have her pictures around .. 

    He's just a step behind you ...  sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie  

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    Hi there sorry about your dad six months i i thi is when it hits you the worst stark reality comes in . Dont Do tough be strong if your not getting support at home tell him he may not have a clue its not your husbands dad and until you have been through it you cant understand have you tried counciling you can get support from them its a lonely road is grief know one knows how you feel but it dose get eisier what you have been doing is fine its your way .anger resentment blame all comes what ifs they all come with grief so dont worry if your grieving wrong your not just be asured it gets eisier the pain does dwindle and one day the sun might start to shine for a day .just relax take one day at a time .your husband may be cold but far better than  dealing with it on your own i was lucky i found a great friend on here that helped me.best wishs .p

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