Hi Lucy,

I completely agree with you. It's not fair and our mums should still be with us now. I still cant believe it and its 3 weeks since mums funeral.

All I can say having been in your situation is that you will get strength from somewhere to get through the day. I looked at mums coffin and couldn't imagine mum inside but felt comfort that I was close to her again.

You feel as though you are in a nightmare and it isn't real but at the same time you know this is the final goodbye and you have to make it good.

I got through the poems and the songs and I even managed to stand and give a tribute to mum. I look back now and wonder how I did it, but I did. I have no lingering memories of the funeral and you find that you will rarely think of the day afterwards. I manage to drive past the crematorium without getting upset either and yet I'm in tears most days all day on and off.

Good luck tomorrow.i will bd thinking of you x

my heart goes out to you

all your love n memories will get you through ,xx

O dear lucy its going to be hard but its only a few hours we are all thinking of you and hope its not to painful .paul

Thank you Paul 

Thank you. Just sitting here watching the clock until it’s time, think it’s going backwards 

Lucy,

It's such an awful time for you, you will find the strength from somewhere deep down. Try to focus on the celebration of your mum , it's a day that only happens once, thank goodness, so make sure you do anything that might help you later. Wishing you all the best. Nicola xx

Hi Lucy

Hope today was ok as it could be.  I know the funeral day is horrible (my Dad's was last Thursday).

Been thinking of you
Dawn

Hi Dawn,

the funeral service was really nice and went as well as it could be. My brother broke my heart though. As we had organised for him and my uncle to walk along moms coffin into the room but he asked if he could carry her so they did. It was unexpected but so nice. 

The sun came out as well. I think I feel numb now as it really has happened but I guess you know what I mean. 

It was the worst day of my life but I know we did her proud and couldn’t have done more  

just wondering how to carry on as normal now when my normal doesn’t exist 

thank you so much for messaging and thinking of me. I hope you are okay and not struggling too much. I’m always here to listen I promise 

Lucy x

Hi Lucy

I think there is always a sign on the day i.e the sun coming out etc from up above so I am sure she was looking down on you.  When the flowers came out at Dad's we had 10 seconds of rain and that was it, weird as one of our songs was Tears in Heaven.

Let all the grief out and continue to not hold things in. I've struggled a lot more since Dad's funeral last week, it has hit me proper hard, I think you spend so much time planning the funeral after the death that once the funeral done, it's like life has to go back to normal.  I broke down getting ready for work this morning and have done every night after work this week.

It's horrible as all we want is them back :(

Lots of hugs xx