Hi,

your dad sounds wonderful and a very strong man who fought all the way. I complete understand how you are feeling as lost my mom last Sunday to lung cancer which spread to her liver, kidneys, adrenal glands and her brain. Even as I type this I still can’t quite believe it’s happened. To say I feel devastated doesn’t seem to do it justice and I imagine you feel the same. I’m always here whenever you want to talk. I only joined the forum this evening and already feel it is helping, just to be able to get my thoughts out there to someone without worrying I’m going to upset them. My dad gets too upset when he sees my cry as does my brother so I try not to talk about it too much with them. So please message me anytime and I’ll just listen and be there for you.  

All my love Lucy c

Hi there Julie - this is very, very sad for you & the shock of it must be difficult to cope with. Feeling completely devastated & heartbroken  is perfectly understandable & it all takes time to come to terms with & accept. In this regard try, if you can, just to take things hour by hour & not look too far ahead. We human beings are funny creatures - we tell ourselves we can't bear something whilst at the very same time that's exactly what we are doing even tho' it doesn't feel that way. You are probably much stronger than you think you are & somehow you will find a way to struggle thro' this awful loss.

It's important to tell people how you feel so that they can help. You've done that here so do keep posting whenever you feel like it & talk to people here who have been thro' it & understand how you feel. xx