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Do you ever stop missing them?

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I lost my Nan to bowel cancer on Sunday.

we were so close, more like best friends.

its such a cliche thing to say, but my heart pines for her. I miss her smell, her touch, her voice.

im scared that as time goes on, I’ll forget all her little sayings and ways.

 

im struggling with grieving as well. I’ll be okay for a couple of days, then the sadness just overwhelms me. It all just seems very surreal. 

 

As horrible as our situations are, it’s nice to know people understand what I’m going through 

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    Hi hannah,. The thaughts are there all your life, they just keep popping up now and again I'm nearly 70 and i keep remembering my grandma and pa, i can just be doing something ordinary and it'll just pop in to my head how i usto do it with one of them, it does get easier but it never goes i remember more old things than young, i you feel up to it go visit the grave or crem take some flowers, talk to her tell her how you are feeling, i still do it now and again but i struggle getting about, you will always miss her, it just gets less painful,. God bless.

    Billy 

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    Hi Hannah ...

    Maybe make a memorie book .. I've done that for my granddaughter who's just 7 .. I started it when she was just one ...it has pictures and I tell her all the funny things she did and said ... and I told her about her daddy, when he was little .. and how much I adore her, coz I'm scared she won't remember those things as she grows .. it took a long time to do that book for her ..

    So maybe if you can get photos and write down bit by bit all you remember you'll have that to look back on .. and a memory book to show your children what an amazing nan you had ... 

    And I bet she's looking down on you, proud as punch for her granddaughter... she won't leave you ... she'll stay tucked up safely in your heart .. where you can keep her with you through your journey... 

    Sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie xx

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    Hi hanna for a while grief does make you forgetfull its your brain protecting you from to much pain all at onece its a question a lot ask but that paine does dwindle then the memories start tocome back but not painful like now you allways remamber them we dont dont forget anything you will at times remember your nan but this time it will be with a warm feeling it takes time just kee talking thats the best therapy .grief does come and go like that so dont worry your doing ok you may not think that at this time but you will be ok so dont you worry just take it when the pain come s eventualy it will not come at all just nice memories of your lovely nan eh .paul

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