Dear Laura - I am so so sorry to hear about your Dad.  I know exactly how you feel as I too lost my beloved Dad to cancer.  The pain is unbearable the void can never be filled.  All I can say to you - is your Dad would not want you to be sad.  He knew how much you loved him and what a wonderful legacy he left behind in you.  Make him even more proud Laura of you than he already was - of how you handle his passing.  Life is for living - your Dad would tell you that if he could hold you in his arms now.  Of course you will grieve it is only natural - but try and stay strong for your beloved Dad eh?  x

thank you so much,that’s the best reply I could hear right now. I just feel so desperate and raw, but have four boys who I need to keep strong for. Thanks so much x

Awh dear Laura - thank you for your reply.  Oh yes - those boys will be your salvation through all of this.  I am so glad you have them.  I too had young children when my wonderful Dad died.  Looking after them got me through it.  Your Dad would say - 'That's my girl!'  Wow - your Dad not only left behind his beloved daughter but four beautiful boys also.  A terrific legacy.  I'm sending Lots of hugs to you this evening.  xxx

Hi Laura. It’s horryfying to lose someone so quickly isn’t it. My mum died last Tuesday, 5 weeks after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. So quick and so heartbreaking. 

In the last few days, I have found that keeping  busy and talking to people helps me get through the day. I do have weird chest pains/palpitations at night, which is from anxiety. I’m not sure where your dad passed, but your local hospice may be able to offer you some counselling. If not, then the charity ‘Cruse’ also offer specific bereavement support. 

Do allow yourself to cry and try and be around other (sympathetic) people when you can. At this point, being alone for too long can send you down a hole. 

Keep going xxx

Hi ime a bit late answering yes there are people you can call theres the cruz helpline and you know the samaitans its late at night it realy hurts most just ring the freephone number tell them your suffering and they will chat to you i did as i had lost my partner within days .and she was my confidant as i i was hers so her absence was a constant reminder dont think the samaritans are there for suicidel people there there for everyone a chat and a bit of sympathy may just settle you down if you get one that you cant gel with just say thanks ring off and ring back if you need advice the hosic can arrange counciling and if its getting just to much make a double appointment with gp they can give you something maybe to help sette you down short term .sorry your going through this its agony of rhw worst kind is grief .paul