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Loss of Husband

Wicks03
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My husband battled through chemo and radiotherapy but his cancer spread. He was given 2 months to live but decided after 6 days he had had enough.

I found him on sunday morning, on saturday night he was sat up in bed eating icecream and  cheesecake !

He had odema up to his knees and was short of breath but still managing to get up and about.

He wasnt in any pain and wasnt taking any pain killers.

I was beginning to prepare my home for his end of life care, Macmillian where on standby for when things started to get difficult but he had other ideas and decided to spare his family having to watch him suffer and left peacefully in his sleep xxx 

 

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    Hello there - I am terribly sorry to hear that you have lost your husband to this horrible illness. I know not everyone here will agree with me but I think your husband was a very brave man. Choosing to end one's own life can't ever be done lightly but I believe it is a right that people have.

    An uncle of mine chose the same path after losing his wife to lung cancer & being ill himself. His daughter & I knew this was the route he was likely to take & respected his wishes. I think this is what you seem to have done & that's the best way, I feel, for you to cope with his loss.

    I think it also means that you too are very brave & I'm sure you will find the strength to cope with the grief that will follow.

    My sincere condolences to you & your family. x

  • Offline in reply to purrfect

    Whoops bit of a mis understanding, my husband died peacefully in his sleep xxx 

  • Offline in reply to Wicks03

    Oh my goodness - I am so terribly sorry what an awful blunder. I completely misunderstood. I'm grateful you took it so well. Thank you. xx

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    Hi my partner passed in her sleep what a blessing it was dont you think hope i go like that.theres a lot dont but so theres some comfort in that . I thought i would come and say hi so you know your not alone its still agony . I still feel liz around me theres something strange about death i dont  think its the end dont know what it is but i i dont  think its the end just a change look for unusual things feelings we can actualy detect energy our sences are better than we know .sorry about your loss but in time the pain does dwindle best wishs to you and your family .paul

  • Offline in reply to Paulus

    Just read your story !! I thought  our times where quick but yours was rapid and just tragic.

    My husband had chemo and 6 weeks of radio which he stormed through and im grateful to him  for putting himself through that and trying. But it wasnt to be and it came back and went for his heart and he didnt stand a chance.

    I believe he sparred me and his children any suffering having to watch him suffer he died peacefully and pain free and hes definitely still with us in spirit xxx 

  • Offline in reply to Wicks03

    Sounds like a wonderful guy ime sure hes around for a while making sure your all ok some of the strange lovely things that happend to me after has convinced me . P

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