My mum died of cancer and I can’t believe she has gone

My mum was officially diagnosed with cancer on 9 January and died on 18 February! I still can’t get my head around it. From October she kept saying she felt bloated and sick. She went to dr and they kept prescribing her gavisgon and sickness tablets. On 22/12 she told dr she still felt ill. She demanded a blood test. The result was ca125 of 3155. Which meant ovarian cancer. She went to hospital for a scan on 28th December (her 72 birthday) and never came out and died on 18/2. My mum was the most fun, outgoing, independent woman you could meet. Our dad died Oct 2017 and she was devastated. It took her a year to get a life back for her. To then be diagnosed weeks later of cancer and then die. So I’ve lost both my mum and dad within 1 and half years. How are you supposed tobdeal with that. He was only 69. Mum had just turned 72. 

  • Bless you ime so sorry you certainly are having it rough its not long for you for it to have sunk in but if its any consolation eventualy the pain does dwindle even thoe at the time it feels like it never will time but you have to do something with it have you looked into some bereavment counciling usualy local hospice have councilers also a bereavment group it always helps to feel your not alone why i dont know but we humans need to be with otheres to share our pain just try and hold onto the thought tell yourself it will get easier for some reason eventualy part of our brain starts to beleive it .once again ime so sorry for your loss there are many on here who do understand your pain .paul

     

     

  • Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... loosing a parent to me is the second hardest thing in life ...

    I lost both my wonderful loving amazing parents when I was in my 30s... the one thing that got me through it, was not thinking I'd lost them, but feeling greatfull for every day I had them in my life ... some people have parents that don't care .. and they will never know that love we were blessed to have had ..

    Yes I'll miss them always .. but feel my mum around me through my journey through life .. when I was diagnosed with breast cancer... I found beautiful white feathers everywhere esp in my bra .. after my masectomy... and the day I was told my grade 3 lump was contained and low risk of spread , they stopped ...

    Many many more times through life have I felt mum close ... we can grieve that we lost them .. or take those lessons they taught us and live through them ... if my cancer takes me .. I'll not be "gone" as long as my kids and their kids are here ... I made albums of their story for my grandkids ... I tell them often how wonderfull they were .. I've also made a memory book for my little granddaughter Emily of all the things we've done together .. told her about her daddy when he was small ... and pictures of my nan and grandad too ... so she will never forget how much I love her ...

    They will never leave you as long as you keep them tucked up in your heart ...

    Chrissie

  • This is a similar experience to what happened with my mum, she passed away on the 19th of May. She went into hospital on the 7th after complaining of nausea and bloating and we also noticed she looked yellow, went in for a scan and never came home she was diagnosed on the 10th (her birthday) Was a nightmare for us all. She was only just 54. I am still numb and full of anxiety about it all  

    Although there is nothing I could say to take away your pain I have found reading that you are not alone is somewhat of a burden shared, although it is awful for anyone to have to go. 

    Surround yourself with people who you love and just keep fighting, that’s all we can do right now. 

    so sorry 

  • I am very sorry and I know how hard this must be for you. I too have lost my mum to Breast Cancer back in April 2019.

    Mum was diagnosed with Breast Cancer at 2015 which started as a lump on the left breast but unfortunately it spread to the liver and bones.

    She became terminally ill and got admitted to hospital after the calcium levels became high but never came home and passed away 4 days after my 33rd birthday so it's been very hard for me.

    I do miss mum but I know she is at a better place and out of pain.

    Remember to stay strong always and if you need help, you can always talk to a counsellor and there is also family and friends. Take care