Hi,

I needed to write something, as I feel things are getting worse. 

I lost my mum to cancer 4 years ago and we were very close.  I myself had only got over breast cancer and 2 years later my mum got ill and it all came as a massive shock.

My dad didn't cope well at all and things were very hard for all of us. 

I've never had a good relationship with him and since my mum passed, things between did improve, but lately it has gotten worse again.  When he sold the family home, he discussed with my husband and I that he wanted to help us financially to move home and for several years he kept mentioning that he still wanted to help till we got things organised.  He has now turned round and said he cannot help at all, as he feels he needs to put money aside for his care when he can no longer look after himself.  I can understand that, but when he kept promising this and now nothing, I've been left feeling very angry and disappointed by him and feel I cannot deal with his empty promises anymore.  He's done similar things in the past and also to my siblings.  I am now not speaking to him and he has taken upon himself to make me feel guilty and that he's the wounded individual.  I feel like I'm just going round this same old wheel and whenever sometimes bad happens, it overemphasizes how much I miss my mum and what a huge part of me is missing and nothing can make that better