Hi james it happens 3 x4 months is bad if you remember i always say stick the bereavment counciling because for your the one thats lost the most all your family will be hurting but start to get back to normal lives and your still hurting and genraly that hour a week is a time for your greif . It makes you feel more alone so it starts to hurt again i think sympathy keeps us going but it starts to get less the thing is your stronger than you think and although you feel you are slipping you will but you will come back you just have to maybe see if theres a bereavement group in your earea that may help finding people you can share with that do understand how you feel it cant ca any harm i know sometimes i seem hard but ime actualy giving good advice although it may not seem that way we need sympathy but sometime advice is better time is given to us to go out there and help ourselves time on its own dosnt help you just have to work at it thinking ime never going to be any better dosnt help thinking its going to get better is only a few words in your head but what a diffrence those few words do to your outlook is so diffrent that exactly what i kept telling myself it will get better actually has made it better like retraining your brain so if you had a friend ein your position would you tell him your not going to feel better you wouldnt think or your going to be in a world of pain forever you retrain your brain in a way so keep telling yourself it will get better our brains can be our best friend or worst enemy .p