Hi matilda hey ime so sorry about your mum but more concerned for you not heard much from Sarah lately so ill inswer if you dont mind .electrical disturbances seem to happen a lot after a love one passes just because you havnt drempt about your mum dosnt mean you havant herhaps you dont remember them i had things turning on on there own i lost my partner two years ago and i could feel her for a while after like a feeling you cant describe i think you will know what i mean .dont you worry your mums around watching theres things unexplainable in this world perhaps we are not ment to our bodys wear out but the energy that is us realy is still there we cant see it but we know its there dont look for signs they are suptle sounds like you need someone to talk to if you ring your local hospice they do counciling i went and just talking to a kind face and being able to ask a few questions i suppose your dads broken up so i suppose its difficult for you to ask questions dont be shy find number off the web and ask to spk to the head counciler tell them why you have called and they will take it from there its free maybe it will help your dad.theres also cruse bereavment helpline and if you need to talk theres the samaritans samars lots of help out there you just need to ask like on here your not alone .just look on the web for phone numbers they may only do telephone counciling at this time and there may be a wait but trust me if you stick at it it realy can help have a chat to your dad even the strongest of us need help at times bless you .paul

Hi Serapine8,

I recently lost my wife to Sarcoma cancer of the heart,

She showed no signs at all that she was suffering until December last year up until then she had always been very fit and healthy,

After diagnosis in January this year she was only given an life expectancy of eight weeks,

She battled on until passing away peacefully recently at a hospice  ... where she had been a patient for only a couple of weeks,

I stayed with her and was present as she passed .... upon leaving the hospice I was overcome with a very strong sent of her perfume and have felt this on numerous occasions,

This has been very comforting to me and I have spoken to her as if she was present .... I have been very sceptical up until this point but my feelings were confirmed when i would wake constantly at 1 0'clock in the morning which is the time when she passed and then on the most recent occasion the bedroom bulb blew out at 1 o'clock,

Most would probably find this experience frightening but I am comforted by this knowing she is still close after being taken from us so quickly at an early age,

I hope this message helps,

Kind Regards Neil.

Hi, I have been reading this with interest, and now my husband passed away 6 weeks ago I have something to write about! He was young, only 44 and had oseophagus cancer.  He was a telecommunications engineer working on TV and radio sites. Sadly after he was diagnosed a year ago and had to stop work nearly all his workmates ditched him, he had been there 13 years, some he had traveled abroad with for work and got on well with, but not one text did he receive from them... Some people have even suggested his cancer may have been caused by his job, I don't know about that... but one week after he went, I woke in the morning,  turned on my phone, and there was a news story sitting there on it instead of my usual home screen.  " thats weird " I thought,  but when I started to read it my mouth fell open. It was about a transmission tower half an hour from where we live that my husband used to work on and climb up, and how it had caught fire and blown up spectacularly in the night, causing TV and cell phone coverage to be out in the area! It was put down to 'electrical fault', but to me it is just too much coincidence - why would that story just pop up on my phone? I would never have heard about it otherwise, was not even watchin news reports at the time, was too upset..my husband LOVED lighting fires,  it was his thing, often had a fire going in the back garden with the kids cooking sausages, it happened just before Easter,  his workmates would have been so annoyed at having to rush out when they were off work to go and fix it! Was he trying to pay them back for not being there for him?!  if anyone wants to read it look up

Porirua residents lose TV after blaze at transmission tower

www.stuff.co.nz ( we live in nz by the way!)

Last week, my  daughters swing her Dad had made her broke, I checked it and one bolt out of three had come out. It still looked fine, so I rang his mate to fix it when he could and just told her to be careful on it till then. The next day she was out there with her older sister (8 and 12), when she told her sister she could see "Papa over there leaning against the tree watching us". She said he looked "plump again  and young like he did when I was about four". Her sister couldn't see anything but she seemed quite matter of fact about it, didn't seem surprised or think it was anything unuusal!  In fact didn't even tell me, if it wasn't for her sister I would never have known!  Makes me feel reassured that he is still out there somewhere,  but I do feel a responsibility to make sure things that were important to him are carried on as he wanted them to be.. if he is watching over us I don't want to let him down!

Hi Serapine!

I dont know if it's just me, but i have just experienced this. So i believe that the answer you're looking for is Yes! Whether it'll be flowers, Butterflies or anything related to that.

With me, (i wont go into it too much) a butterfly was found near the end of the room, but i noticed it almost immediately and it was just 1 day after the bad news.

I read up about it. And it said that it was a sign that the loved one has chosen something that is noticeable and easy to spot, and put it in a place that is unexpected.

I hope this answered your question!!

These stories are amazing and since I replied to a thread a couple of years ago they still come coming and yes once you open your self up to world of spirit and the after life you see the sighs keep positive everybody and Intune with yourself They will keep coming it really doas help and give you hope as you know there right by your side in everything we do 

Hi Serapine

I have recently lost a very close friend of mine. He was found in bed and he had passed away suddenly and unexpectedly during the night, we don't know the cause but we are guessing a heart attack due to his age. I am lucky I got to speak to him 6 days before his death, where he was completely fine, so it was a complete shock. Ever since I have been waking up at 7.50am this the time we got the phone call and I have been waking up at 3.00am with him on my mind.

About a week after his death I woke up at 4.00am to go to the toilet, walked out of my room and I happened to look down the hall, where i saw a fairly faint shadow which looked like him, he waved and then suddenly disappeared.

Today happened to be his funeral and due to Covid we couldn't attend which was heartbreaking. But last night something odd happened. Whilst I was asleep he came to me in my dream and started saying wake up, wake up. So i woke up and saw 2 figures sat at the end of my bed, one was him and he said I've brought someone with me, the other figure was my grandad who passed away 23 years ago. My friend then went on to say, don't be upset I've gone as I am in a better place and i am no longer going to suffer. I am proud of and I want you to continue making me proud, I'll always be by yourside and with every step you take I'll be there. I knew him from bowls and he said every bowls game you play I'll be there watching and supporting you. I will come and see you again. i love you. My grandad then went to say we are all proud of you and we must go as we have a game of bowls to play, which is just typical of them. 

But the last few weeks since his death I have been having robins visit me in the garden and watching me. When I've been at the bowling club I've had robins sitting on the fence. When I was checking my kit over I had a white feather drop by the side of me, when there had been nothing around. And at the time of his funeral we went to his favourite view and there was a 2 white feathers there too.

I just hope I get more signs that he is ok 

Thats wonderful mutley to have that must be a great comfort ive had thing from my partner she passed two years ago i dont think we die our bodies may die but our energy and thoughts all the things that are us stay for a while before they actually move on even if you get no more signs you know now that death is not final the shear fact that we are all here is beyond chance theres ther goes on in this world we will ever understand or are ment to i dont mean god as ime not religious but something benevelant so sorry about your friend i hope when i go its it my sleep paul

hi i lost my partner scott from cancer last june it will be a year on the 18 . I do beleiive there is something that none of us will ever fully understand until we pass. But i have hope that our loved ones are with us. When my partner was very ill at home i was in the kitchen washing the pots, i kept looking in on him to see if he was ok whilst in the kitchen i saw a dart of light just go past me, it was like a tiny orb just speed past. I will never forget it.  I looked at pictures on my phone one day one was where scott asked to take a picture of him i dont know why he asked this but above him are 2 flashing orbs. I know in my heart he's here with me and our son..just because their not with you physicallly anymore i do know in my heart he is out there and still with us...love never dies....god bless to everyonexx

Hi all, it's been 9 months since my dad died from pancreatic cancer 5 weeks after he was diagnosed. I had a strong sign from him the morning after he died but nothing since until last night. The last few months I haven't felt connected to Dad at all and have been pretty low. Several times I have cried out for him to come to me in a dream or send me a sign to let me know he is still with me but nothing. Last night I dreamt of for the first time, and without me asking for it to happen. We were sitting in my family homes kitchen and he was fit and healthy and happy, cancer free. He took by the hands, which were plump again and not down to skin and bones. I asked him why he had gone silent, did he hear me when I talk for him, when I cry out for him. He smiled and said he always hears me and is always with me but he wants me to stop being so sad and to start living again. I know we spoke longer but I can't remember the rest and woke up shortly after. Of course I cried as soon as I remembered but it was more because I couldn't believe he had finally come to me in a dream. Honestly it was wonderful and I know it's exactly what he would say and what he wants for me. So I'll try my best for him.

This is such a wonderful thread to read and I get so much comfort reading others posts. I really do believe our loved ones are with us in some way after they are gone and I hope my posts help others feel the same. Love never dies.