Hi there ..

You are in a really sad situation ... in my opinion ... l know as one going through the cancer journey how hard it is on everyone close .. your hubby, is an only child, so there's no sibling to share these times with .. and from expierance think he is going through his own journey of knowing he may well loose a parent ..

I know there was a time when I needed to get my head round everything , that I had to do that on my own .. after a few days getting out and processing all those feelings, I was then able to let others in .. 

If i were you I'd tell him I'm there whenever he wants to talk .. but that your giving him space untill he feels ready .. this isn't about making things better .. it's about getting through ... and listening ... and having a hand to hold ... you sound amazingly caring ... and it hurts when you feel helpless .. but wer all helpless in these situations ... because we hand over control to the Drs ... 

So I'd say ... just be there, even in the background ... and know if you can do that, he may just open up ...it sure is easier when we can walk the same path ... and be open with feelings .. but everyone is different ..l don't know if this will help .. but be kind to yourself ... and know just by being there, you'll be helping more then you know ... just let him lead the way ...  Chrissie x

Thank you Chrissie. I wish I could make things better, you are right. But I can’t.. I’m helpless.. Wishing you all the best and thank you for sharing. X

Hi its i difficult position you are in if you push it may make it worse .just tell him your there if he needs you because he will .so try try not to worry somtime dont let it get to you he realy has to do it the way he needs to do it . You look after yourself its not being selfish its being practical best wishs paul