Hi there ...

Some people , myself included watch the old silent videos of my mum and dad and feel really good .. and close to them, and it brings a smile to my face every time ... others like my niece, still can't watch videos of her hubby, and dad as she crys at the thought ...

You have to do what's right for you ... and explain to your step dad ... your just not ready to look at it yet .. but thank him for taking the time to do it for you, and that one day when your ready, it's right there for you to look at ...  I'm sure he'd understand ... everyone is different .. Chrissie   ; ))

Hi there crissies right he will understand I'm sure we all react to loosing a loved one diffrently ime ime an old wrinkly i lost my love 8 months ago and i couldnt cope whatching a dvd dvd yet some spend hours watching but how great of him to do it .but you have it thats nice you may want to in years to come ..perhaps you could try a bit of bereavement counciling if you havnt its never to late but your desision .best wishs .paul