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I lost my wife to breast cancer

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I lost my wife to breast cancer on her 44th birthday just over 3 months ago. I have 4 children who we both adored. I just can’t get over that feeling of loss and loneliness. My wife battled for 8 years having different types of chemo, radiotherapy and surgery as the cancer spread around her body and not once did she feel sorry for herself or ask why me? She lived life to the full always putting others first. The way she died was awful seeing her gasping for air and being in so much pain will never leave me. She was the bravest person I new she was my best friend and I miss her and loved her so much. Christmas has been really hard and then tonight I have just found my youngest son crying and hugging a wall that has her picture on it. I know she wouldn’t want me to be unhappy or feel sorry for myself and the kids but I do and I can’t see any future for me apart from the children as my life ended the minute hers did. I loved with everything I had and never missed an appointment or treatment we really were inseparable.

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    Oh, this is awful and in many ways closely mirrors what I am currently experiencing. My wife passed away at the end of November after a two and a half year battle against breast cancer which spread onto her lungs, she was 46. Her passing was also a very traumatic experience and can at best be described as like watching a fish out of water gasping for air. That experience has rocked me to the core. We have two kids aged 16 & 20 and are stuck in a very sad no mans land at the moment and not really knowing what to do for the best. Its just a horrible way to feel, our world has been smashed to pieces and we don't know what to do.

    People keep saying "stay strong for the kids", but its a struggle when I can't even be strong for myself. Its just a horrible situation to be in.

    James

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    Oh, this is awful and in many ways closely mirrors what I am currently experiencing. My wife passed away at the end of November after a two and a half year battle against breast cancer which spread onto her lungs, she was 46. Her passing was also a very traumatic experience and can at best be described as like watching a fish out of water gasping for air. That experience has rocked me to the core. We have two kids aged 16 & 20 and are stuck in a very sad no mans land at the moment and not really knowing what to do for the best. Its just a horrible way to feel, our world has been smashed to pieces and we don't know what to do.

    People keep saying "stay strong for the kids", but its a struggle when I can't even be strong for myself. Its just a horrible situation to be in.

    James

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