I can't stop crying

I haven't been on the site for a while I think I've just been trying to get on with things so that everyone thinks I'm coping but it's not working. I lost my partner in june and to begin with I thought I was ok but recently I just can't stop crying. It's my birthday this week and it's the first celebration without him he always bought my special perfume for me because he said he had no imagination and it was the safest gift he could buy. It's been a very emotional few weeks it was the first anniversary of my mum's death at the end of November and at the beginning of December it would have been my grandsons 11th birthday. It seems that all I seem to cope with is sadness. I'm dreading Christmas but I put a smile on my face for the sake of my granddaughter but deep down I just want to hide away.

  • Hi Dubberley 

    What a heartbreaking post. So sorry you have suffered so much loss. It’s no wonder you can’t stop crying what with everything you have been through. 

    I have also experienced loss (my Mum to cancer) and also other loses in my family from different things. I always found the anticipation of Christmas/special occasions harder than the actual event myself. My first Christmas without mum...I dreaded it...I had so much anxiety and fear but when it came to the day, we all found that we coped. And it was actually a nice get together. 

    I love it that your partner played it safe and bought you your favourite perfume <3 xx and how nice that you have your granddaughter to focus on over the festive period. 

    If things really do feel bad...there’s always the option of seeing your GP...they may well be able to help you to manage this really difficult time for you x your son/daughter...are you close to them? Can you confide in them about how you’re feeling so that they can be of some support to you? 

    also - this forum is a great place to post on if you ever feel the need to get things off your chest. 

    I wish you a peaceful night xx