I'm struggling

I lost my mum 3 years ago. She was ill for 2 years before and I was her carer and lost all my friends (I thought they were friends) I find it hard to talk to people, my family is moving on and going their separate ways, I cry nearly every day, the thought of living my life and never seeing and speaking to my mum again is tearing me up. I'm struggling to live  any sort of existence. I'm 32 and I know I need to get on with it but the pain is too much. Any advice? 

  • Hi Winter32, 

    I am 16 and I lost my mum 2 months ago, she was ill for 8 months before passing away. 

    I am so sorry to hear how you are feeling. First thing I want to say is, do not beat yourself up about crying often - grief can take many years before you start to propely cope. I completely understand your pain, I feel like mine has been going on forever and it has only been a few months. 

    I feel the same way - I miss my mum so so much and I always wonder how on earth I am going to go the rest of my life without speaking to her or just having a mum to hug. 

    my advice to you, is surround yourself with people who support you and make you happy - If your family are moving on too fast for you, then let them know. they will support you and understand what you are saying. And do not be too hard on yourself, you need to be kind to yourself in order to build up your strength, just remember it will be okay. I know that sounds crazy right now, but you will get through this. A quote I saw, and I read it all the time is "Life is tough, but you are tougher"

    I hope you manage to find some happiness soon x 

    I am always here to chat, or give support. 

    Take care, Millie x 

  • Hi Millie

     

    Thanks for the reply, it was very kind.

    I am so sorry for your loss, losing your mum at such a young age is cruel.

    I shall take your advice and try to speak to my family. 

     

    Take care x

  • Please take care too, sending you a hug x