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Losing my Mum

Millie20
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Hi all, 

I am 16 and lost my Mum to cancer 2 months ago. I am really struggling to cope with life without her, and I feel like I need to speak to people in the same boat as me. I do talk to friends however I feel like they struggle to understand as they have not expereinced the same thing as I have. 

I hope someone can give me some hope as I feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel :/

Thanks, Millie 

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    Hey millie,

    I'm extremely sorry to hear about your loss but hey we're on the same boat. I'm 16 too and I know how u feel when u say there's no light at the end of the tunnel but there IS! We just need to look deeper.

    If it makes you feel better then you can read my story by clicking on my name, it'll come up.

     I hope it helps millie.

    Take care, ibby

     

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    Hi Ibby, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss, it must be awful :( 

    Thank you for your reply it means alot 

    Millie 

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    Hi,

    I lost my Wife just under a month ago to BC and we have a 16 year old daughter and a 20 year old son.

    My daughter must be feeling exactly the same emotions as you right at this time, and from what I can see as a parent it is a mixture of sadness, anger and frustration.  One of the things which haunts her more than anything is the fact that as she goes forward in her life she will probably end up not knowing her mum for more years than she knew her.  To hear her say that tears me apart.   We have the funeral just before Christmas and that is going to be terrible for all the family, especially as my wife loved this time of year.

    After Christmas we are going to the hospice for counselling in the hope that it helps us understand this nightmare.  No words or advice will change any of what has happened, but I guess we can either muddle through it or stand still.

    Just before my wife passed away her oncologist asked me if I had any questions... My reply was " I have lots of questions for you, they all start with 'why' and you won't be able to answer a single one of them"- she didn't have anything else to say to me after I said that. 

    There are so many things wrong about losing someone so precious to cancer.   I hope that counselling can offer some light at the end of the tunnel for both me and my children.

    I hope that you too can find a way through these tough times.

     

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    Aww little girl, I know this is so hard for you but u gotta stay strong and keep your head high!

    I mean your 16 with your whole life infront of you. I was 14 when i lost my mum so i know how it feels. To have that burning flame in your heart that hurts so bad but i was given the saem advice. And now i'm 27, married and pregnant with twins. 

    If i could do it, you can little one!

    Stay strong and believe xx

    -T

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    Thank you so much for your reply. 

    Wow you have been so successful in life! Sometimes I wonder if I will ever get married, have kids etc because of my mum not being around but you have given me hope x

    Thank you and take care :) 

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